Live your bliss

For the love of Facebook, continued

2011-12-31T15:12:00.000-08:00

Back in April I wrote a blog about Facebook on howfriendships and deep connections are made through "friending people". In that post I mentioned how a few years agoI thought it was crazy to be on Facebook and how much I really love ittoday! As a follow up to that, I'msharing a couple fabulous experiences and connections that were made throughreaching out to people and posting on Facebook.

A month ago I had honor of following a story for Royal Oak Patch about "The Desert Angel" organization. The first and secondgraders at Northwood Elementary were packing stockings to send to the troopsoverseas. They packed over 100 stockings and included a sweet card with each one. It inspired me to bake dozensof cookies myself to send out. (I plan to dothis every month for as long as I can - if you want to contribute, let meknow!)

And then

I posted the article on my Facebook page and shared that I was baking the cookies. Right awaysomeone made a comment that while stationed in Iraq in 2009/2010 he hadreceived numerous packages from the Desert Angel organization. It touched him deeply, partially because he never knew how they got his name. He posted that he was so gratefulfor the monthly gifts. It gave him hope; something to look forward to month after month.

Shortly after he posted, another friend shared that her and herchildren attend packing parties on a regular basis through their church. The soldier who posted above asked if she wasthe one who submitted his name. Ofcourse she was! The soldier was finallyable to put a name and face to the person who sent his name to The Desert Angel - a face and name to the personthat, among many, appreciated his service to our country! Youall know I was in tears reading those posts on my page!

Next up

Three weeks agomy brother, who like many, is laid off and living on a very limited budget,sent me a note saying he needed a new washing machine, "Be on the lookout, will ya," he said!

Well, I decided to put it out there to my wonderful Facebookfriends! Within in just a few minutes avery generous soul, who is experiencing her own challenges,posted on my page that she had a washing machine and he could pick it up - shegave it to him FOR FREE!!! All he needed to do was figure out how to pick it up. It took a couple of weeks, but he finally made it over there - works like a champ! (We know what he'll be doing for New Years!)

Before Facebook the soldier may never have known who tothank for the generosity he received month after month while stationed over seas and my brother may have had to fork over acouple hundred bucks for a washing machine, at a time when he needed the cash more than ever before,

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR LOVE AND GENEROSITY! Thank you Royal Oak Patch for the opportunity to share so many great stories with the world.

To those of you who think Facebook isn't worth the time, Iurge you to reconsider - it's pretty amazing. I'm thankful to all of youthat grace my page and my life, on and off of Facebook!

Many blissings for a prosperous and joyful new year! Keep connecting, keep sharing and this year,ask for what you need - you just might be surprised how it shows up in yourlife!

Merry Blissmas - Everyday happiness

2011-12-19T13:27:00.000-08:00

This is a repost from last December..Enjoy!

Merry Blissmas!

Yes, that's right Blissmas - An everyday celebration of happiness, joy and love = Blissmas!

Over the course of the year we tend to wait until this time of year to celebrate the abundance of joy and happiness in our lives. Why is that? We celebrate with lavish gifts and too much food. Why not break it all down over the course of the year and feel joy and abundance daily?

To be aware of the effects of celebrating “Blissmas” every day begin sharing more of your own happiness and passion with others. Quite possibly you will increase the happiness level of the people in your life, even in the lives of people you don't know - the Bliss Effect!

Not sure how to begin? Take baby steps. Start learning the habits of happy people, then incorporate some of those habits into your own life. Studies have shown that it takes a minimum of 21 days to make "something" a habit and that those habits take practice. Star athletes, musicians, and dancers, practice, practice, practice. Be the star of your own team and practice being happy.

Below is a list of 6 common habits of happy people.

- Be grateful - We ALL have something to be grateful for; like food, clothing, heat, children, snow days, smiles, music, partners, lovers. You get the point. Write a gratitude journal and say thank you more often.

- Savor simple pleasures - When was the last time you sat in a park and watched the birds or listened to children playing on the play ground? Stop for a few minutes a day to enjoy and savor the simple pleasures of life, nature is full of wonder and amazement.

- Join in - Be a part of "something", engage yourself in a cause, a club, a city council, a religious group. Participate in something you believe in.

- Love yourself - It's essential for being a happy person. To truly love anyone, we must love ourselves first. Create a self-love appreciation list and look at it often.

- Surround yourself with happy, supportive people - Choose like minded people to connect with. Positive energy is contagious. Your happiness level will increase simply by being around happy people.

- Ease up - Don't beat yourself up on the off days. We all have them. Give yourself permission to feel crabby, angry, frustrated. Simply allow it to move through you and reconnect with those moments of joy, happiness, and gratitude.

Live your bliss. We were born to be happy and are here to dream big and make those dreams a reality. Enjoy the trip by being as happy as possible and share that joy with those whose lives you touch.

Merry Blissmas to all!

Friends helping friends - that's what makes the world go round!

2011-11-21T14:22:00.000-08:00

This month, this Thanksgiving, I am going to "serve" my friend and soul sister, Teri Sertic. 25% of all Girlavanting book sale proceeds will be donated to Teri and her family, through November 30, 2011.

Teri is a single mom with 3 children. She is a shamanic practitioner, a massage therapist and a dance instructor, with the healing hands of an angel and a heart overflowing with love. She's also an American Veteran having served in the United States Air Force. This year has been extremely difficult for her and her family. On top of being a single mom and the challenges that brings, her youngest daughter, 3 year old little Jojo, was diagnosed with diabetes. Her blood sugar was at an unbelievably high rate and her poor little body was working overload to compensate. After spending almost a week in the hospital she was finally able to take Jojo home, along with daily doses of insulin and blood level checks on a regular basis.

This year has been extremely difficult for her and her family. On top of being a single mom and the challenges that brings, her youngest daughter, 3 year old little Jojo, was diagnosed with diabetes. Her blood sugar was at an unbelievably high rate and her poor little body was working overload to compensate. After spending almost a week in the hospital she was finally able to take Jojo home, along with daily doses of insulin and blood level checks on a regular basis.

Constant monitoring of her child, along with nurturing and mothering her 2 older children has made it extremely difficult for Teri to work on a regular basis. Imagine having to test your child's blood level every few hours and then having to administer insulin shots. Add to that having to find someone willing to care for that child when you go to work; someone willing to step up and give the same loving care to your daughter as you would.

During my years as a single mom life brought more challenges than I could possibly list...it also brought more joys - spending time with my children no matter what was the greatest gift. There were times when I had no idea how I was going to feed them, cloth them or make the house payment. I believe in the magic of the Universe so I knew it would all be taken care of, I just didn't know how. Thank GOD for the people in my life, those Earth Angels, those joyful giving spirits who silently or loudly helped us make it through; anonymous donations of food on my porch, checks from family and friends and gifts for my children. I can't say enough how grateful I am. I "pay it forward" by giving back to my community in some way every single day.

I am thankful beyond words that Teri is my friend and that her 3 beautiful children bless this world. In giving thanks I ask that you check within, to a time when you were in need, and someone reached out to help you, maybe a friend, maybe your family, maybe a stranger. Then, I am asking you to think about Teri and her children and reach out to help them all, in any way you can. She does work out of her house quite often, to be more readily available to her family. A great way to help might be to schedule yourself or friend a massage (one of the best massages I have ever had!) or girls night out dancing at her studio or maybe you simply want to donate love and prayers. Whatever you are inspired to do will be a blessing for her and her family.

Her website is: http://www.the-healing-spot.com/#! and her email is: javalovin@yahoo.com. To make a monetary donation, simply fill out a gift certificate and when prompted to enter a note, add "A gift for Teri Sertic and her family".

Remember, we are donating 25% of all Girlavanting book sales to Teri and her family. They make great holiday gifts for every woman on your list, from 5 to 105!

Feel free to pass this on to who ever you think might send a little love Teri's way.

Happy Anniversary, Happy Thanksgiving!

2011-11-21T13:58:00.000-08:00

It’s the week of Thanksgiving. Seriously, I celebrate it every day. Many of you do too, I know.

Me - I simply thank God, The Great Spirit, Source for every breath I take, every face I see, every tear I shed. I’ve said it before – it’s worth saying again – When I open my eyes in the morning, before I even put my foot on the ground, I take a deep breath and say “Thank you for another day – Thank you for the opportunity to serve”.

It’s also the one year anniversary of Welcome to Blissville at Empoweradio.com. THANK YOU to Brent Carey, Founder and Creator of Empoweradio.com, for this gift of being the voice that brings you so much joy. What we focus on multiplies! Joy, joy, joy!

What a year it’s been! I’ve had the opportunity to deliver 50 of the world’s most incredible, dynamic people, from all over the globe, from Detroit to Melbourne - Marc Allen, Marci Shimoff, Brenda Strausz, SARK, Dr. Bernie Siegel, Lori Lipten, Sharon Salzberg, Shawne Duperon, Gene Stone, Judy Davids, Amanda Gore, Jon Katz, Lori Bryant Woolridge and Catherine Hilker are only a handful of the guests we’ve heard. What an amazing array of topics – love, grief, intimacy inspiration, pets, Feng Shui, intuition, meditation, miracles and of course, bliss.

My guests have given a lot of their personal tips for living a blissful life, here's a sampling:

Susyn Reeve – Take the time to acknowledge what you love and honor about yourself and then experiment with being the world’s greatest lovers – share that love with the world!!

Judy Davids – “All things are possible, believe in yourself and seek out support of others. People want to help you!”

Lori Bryant Woolridge – “True masters learn through joy – there’s a lot of joy to be found.”

Shawne Duperon – "It’s not that deep…take a deep breath and play."

Bernie Siegel – “Love yourself, love your body, and then contribute your love to the world. It’s the only thing that makes you immortal – love someone and you’ll be here forever.”

Marc Allen – “Don’t forget your dreams, keep going for them – dream your most expansive dream, you’ll never regret it.”

There has been one common thread, besides bliss– Gratitude. Each of these remarkable people feels a deep sense of gratitude to life. You'll hear that in every interview, over and over again.

I am over flowing with that same grateful spirit, thankful to be the bridge that brought their message to you; messages with deep meaning, yet seemingly so simple; thankful to be bringing even more bliss to you in the next year.

Thank you all for tuning in and empowering yourself with their wisdom, for taking a few minutes each week to tune in and tune up your life – for bringing me into your home, your office, your world, your heart. You are all on my bliss list and I am grateful beyond words!

A deep sense of gratitude brings you closer to living your bliss…

What we focus on multiplies

2011-10-20T06:46:00.000-07:00

My friend and colleague, Ron Marshall of RonMarshallJr.com has launched a new feature in his blog.

He's calling it a "Professional Showcase" and is highlighting what he considers to be today's thought leaders who are remaking tomorrow.

It is my great honor to be featured as his opening act! Please take a few minutes to read Ron's Blog, both Part I and Part II and suggest anyone that you think should be featured! Ron is an incredible young man, striving to make a difference in peoples lives, both locally here in Michigan and around the globe!

Here's a little snip it of what you'll read:

Part I - The practical side

"I knew taking care of my two children as a single, working mom was not going to be an easy task. I wasn't going to let corporate America decide whether I would be home with my sick child or be a room mom in their classroom. I wanted to make those decisions myself. I had two things going for me (besides my beautiful children): I had a business and accounting background, and I loved to clean! Ok, I loved computers, too.

I bought my first computer and started two businesses: The Administrative Assistant and Snap Services; they have long since been replaced. My dad lent me the money, even though he thought computers were glorified typewriters. At that time, for me, they were, but I believed that the 'new thing called the Internet' was the wave of the future! (I think I was right on that one!)"

Part II - The spiritual side

'What we focus on multiplies. Since we are made up of energy (everything is), why not focus on positive energy, what's working, what's joyful and what's beautiful: Life! It isn't always easy, I know. I've been in some pretty low places myself - abuse, rape, divorces (notice plural there), job loss, a house fire, death of loved ones, and so on and so on. You get the picture - a lot of personal loss and what could have been defeat.

Thankfully, I was raised to always have hope and always see the silver lining."

Read the rest here....

P.S. And book mark Ron's page - you'll want to see some of the great guests he has lined up in his Showcase of thought leaders and those making a difference in our community.

"What we focus on multiplies - focus on your bliss!"

Teri Williams

The Dog Days of Summer

2011-07-25T06:06:00.000-07:00

Last week our area experienced a prolonged summer power outage. Fortunately, ours only went out for a few hours. It was just another reminder of how grateful I am to have lights, food, shelter and AIR CONDITIONING! My mom, who was lucky to have no interruption in her electricity, reminded me that as a child, we didn't have air conditioning during the "Dog Days of Summer" and that most of the world exists without it. That's one memory I am keeping blocked.

How did we come up with the "Dog Days of Summer" anyway?

Although the heat of summer is mainly due to the tilt of the Earth, many ancient cultures believed that Sirius, the “dog star", contributed to the heat of the Midwest and Northern regions during this time of year. Sirius is the brightest star in the sky this time of year. It rises and sets with the sun. During late July it is in conjunction with the sun. The period of time 20 days before and 20 days after became known as the "Dog Days".

Whatever the cause, the "Dog Days of Summer" are here for another couple of weeks. I'm embracing the hot sultry weather while it's here, surrendering to bad hair days and a whole lot of sweat. January 1st will be here before you know it and so will the cold, frosty nights of winter.

The "Dog Days of Summer" occur from roughly July 3 through August 11, which means we have another 2 weeks of high heat indexes. Like my Akita and my Aussie Shepherd I'm taking it easy. You'll find me living my bliss where it's nice and cool; sitting in the shade, turning up the A/C, and chllin' by the pool. Woof Woof!

P.S. How are you keeping your cool and living your bliss during the "Dog Days of Summer"?

What are your 4 Agreements?

2011-06-26T04:29:00.000-07:00

Recently I ran across my copy of "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz. For those of you that haven’t read it, in Don Miguels book he shares what he believes are the 4 characteristics of personal freedom.

~Be Impeccable with your word
~Don't take anything personally
~Don't make assumptions
~Always do your best

Pretty basic and self explanatory, right? I believe they are what every parent looks to teach their children. They’re also the foundation for creating my own Personal Agreements – adding to his list that which helps me better serve humanity in every way possible. These agreements increased my capacity for joy, love and bliss in my life.

Live with gratitude. The first thing I do when I wake up in the morning is thank the universe for another breath, another day. If being grateful doesn’t come easy to you, begin practicing it slowly, like the first time you rode a bike. Something good will happen in the next 24 hours, guaranteed. Sometimes you might have to look a little harder than others.
Practice Generosity of Spirit – Give of yourself freely, without expectation of anything in return, tangible or intangible. Generosity is a quality of the spirit that is motivated by Love. Practice Generosity of Spirit. Give your time and your talents, especially if you can’t give money. Simply give love and a smile. Sometimes that’s all we have. True generosity of Spirit is giving without expecting anything in return.
Move your energy – Everything is energy; where and what we put our energy into expands, sometimes beyond measure. When that energy is not moving, it becomes stagnant. Tune in to what both your body and your mind need to thrive, to feel alive.
Choose Bliss! - Yes, we have a choice. Choose to create more moments of joy and bliss in your life. What we focus on multiplies. Simply decide to focus more on what’s working, what feels good and notice the difference it makes, not just in your life, the life of those around you.

Try making your own personal agreements as to how you plan on allowing and continuing the process of life and love to unfold in an upward, joyful manner. Move your energy :):):)

"Our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive - the risk to be alive and express what we really are.” Don Miguel Ruiz

#Trust 30 Day 15 - 100 years to live

2011-06-14T05:56:00.000-07:00

Do your work, and I shall know you. Do your work, and you shall reinforce yourself. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Take a moment, step back from your concerns, and focus on one thing: You have one life to achieve everything you’ve ever wanted. Sounds simple, but when you really focus on it, let it seep into your consciousness; you realize you only have about 100 years to get every single thing you’ve ever wanted to do. No second chances. This is your only shot. Suddenly, this means you should have started yesterday. No more waiting for permission or resources to start. Today is the day you make the rest of your life happen. Write down one thing you’ve always wanted to do and how you will achieve that goal. Don’t be afraid to be very specific in how you’ll achieve it: once you start achieving, your goals will get bigger and your capability to meet them will grow.

(Author: Colin Wright)

There are no “re-dos” in this life time. We are half way through that 100 year cycle. What’s next?

After doing our work as parents, a job that never ends, providers, spouses, employees, contractors, care givers and more for the last 20 something years we find ourselves at a cross road. The last of our 5 children has graduated from high school and is off on her next adventure. Jeff, at the young age of 49, is taking a “forced early retirement” to save the positions of 3 of his colleagues, beginning July 1. For a few months, he will not have an income. Yes, that’s a little frightening – or is it?

Opportunities abound! Over the last few days and weeks the question has been, “If money were no consideration, what would you do? What will you do in these next chapters of life? How will you do it?” This is an exercise I look forward to, individually and collectively. With the thought of only 50 years left in this lifetime, it really is high time to get down to it! More to come :):)

Blissings…

(Disclaimer: This post is part of the free #Trust30 - 30 day writing challenge. Check it out and jump in. What are you afraid of?)

#Trust 30 - Day 14 Opening up to new pathways

2011-06-14T05:42:00.000-07:00

Alternative Paths by Jonathon Fields
Photo by Jeffrey Williams, Jawdroppingphotography.com

When good is near you, when you have life in yourself, it is not by any known or accustomed way; you shall not discern the foot-prints of any other; you shall not see the face of man; you shall not hear any name; the way, the thought, the good, shall be wholly strange and new. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

The world buzzes about goals and visions. Focus. Create a vivid picture of exactly where you want to go. Dream big, then don’t let anything or anyone stop you. The problem, as Daniel Gilbert wrote in Stumbling Upon Happiness, is that we’re horrible at forecasting how we’ll really feel 10 or 20 years from now – once we’ve gotten what we dreamed of. Often, we get there only to say, “That’s not what I thought it would be,” and ask, “What now?” Ambition is good. Blind ambition is not. It blocks out not only distraction, but the many opportunities that might take you off course but that may also lead you in a new direction. Consistent daily action is only a virtue when bundled with a willingness to remain open to the unknown. In this exercise, look at your current quest and ask, “What alternative opportunities, interpretations and paths am I not seeing?” They’re always there, but you’ve got to choose to see them.

May I be open to new paths!

Oh yes, “choose to see them”, be willing to see what is there, with an open heart and open mind. Every day when I open my eyes I thank the Universe/Source/Spirit for another day and the opportunity to serve the highest good of all, with a willingness to be open to, and see how and what shows up.

At the end of this month my husband will be out of a job, a profession he has been in for over 20 years. He took a “forced early retirement” to save the jobs of 3 of his colleagues. We have so many options and opportunities. Every day a new one is presented. This is exactly the exercise we are practicing daily, continuously asking, “What alternative opportunities, interpretations and paths am I not seeing?” Here’s to choosing to be open to this next adventure in our lives and embracing the new path and turns in front of us.

(Disclaimer: This post is part of the free #Trust30 - 30 day writing challenge. Check it out and jump in. What are you afraid of?)

#Trust 30 - Day 13 - How will you surprise yourself this week?

2011-06-14T05:19:00.000-07:00

I will not hide my tastes or aversions. I will so trust that what is deep is holy, if we follow the truth, it will bring us out safe at last. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Think of a time when you didn’t think you were capable of doing something, but then surprised yourself. How will you surprise yourself this week?

(Author: Ashley Ambirge)

Don’t just follow the truth, live it; live YOUR truth.

At one point I was afraid of what my truth might really be. I realized “ignorance is NOT bliss.” In order for me to be who I really am, I need to accept both the angels and the demons, or “The Bliss Lady and The Pissed Lady” that make up who I am.

What does that mean? That facing my fears, angers, and frustrations, sitting with them, accepting them, doesn’t’ separate me from spirit, it simply reminds me that I have a choice to live in love, and that no matter what, I will always ‘arrive safe’. I’m not sure how I will surprise myself this week – maybe it’s simply showing up!

Bliss ON!!

(Disclaimer: This post is part of the free #Trust30 - 30 day writing challenge. Check it out and jump in. What are you afraid of?)

#Trust 30 - Day 12 - Facing fears

2011-06-14T04:59:00.000-07:00

These are the voices which we hear in solitude, but they grow faint and inaudible as we enter into the world. Society everywhere is in conspiracy against the manhood of every one of its members. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Is fear holding you back from living your fullest life and being truly self expressed? Put yourself in the shoes of the you who’s already lived your dream and write out the answers to the following:

Is the insecurity you’re defending worth the dream you’ll never realize? or the love you’ll never venture? or the joy you’ll never feel?

Will the blunder matter in 10 years? Or 10 weeks? Or 10 days? Or 10 minutes?

Can you be happy being anything less than who you really are?

Now Do. The Thing. You Fear.

The voice that speaks loudest

The voices that I hear are many. The voice that speaks loudest is my inner self who constantly and consistently tells me that living anything less than my “bliss” or with source is a sham. On a New Years Eve, several years ago, I remember driving over a very long bridge, which always terrified me, with my children in the car, on a stormy, snowy night feeling lonely and afraid. I was in the process of getting a divorce and was so afraid of being alone, not knowing how I would feed my children, where we would live, how we would live. As my car started to slide a little I thought to myself, “You (as in Spirit/God/Source) gave me life and you gave me 2 additional lives to care for. I know there is nothing I can’t do and there is nothing to be fearful of.” I realized, among other things, that I am never truly alone, and I am always taken care of, exactly as I need to be. As I straightened my car out and slowed down some, I crossed that bridge with a smile on my face and have crossed many, many more since then.

What keeps me facing those fearful moments, key word, moments, is a deep knowing that “I’m stronger than the fear, anxiety and rage that may be creeping in” and always, always connected to love. I also know that I don’t want to be on my death bed wondering “why I didn’t do the things I wanted most to do or why I didn’t be what I really wanted to be - ME”.

Do, be, and live love!

(Disclaimer: This post is part of the free #Trust30 - 30 day writing challenge. Check it out and jump in. What are you afraid of?)

Day 11 #Trust 30

2011-06-11T05:04:00.000-07:00

Imitation is Suicide. Insist on yourself; never imitate. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Prompt

"Write down in which areas of your life you have to overcome these suicidal tendencies of imitation, and how you can transform them into a newborn you – one that doesn’t hide its uniqueness, but thrives on it. There is a “divine idea which each of us represents” – which is yours?"

There are days when I am not sure “what I will be next” as in, what role I may play in my day to day life: wife, mother, friend, and confidant, pet lover, business advisor, healer and more… many hats! They are all a part of who I am – a unique child of an amazing universe that continuously brings new light to the world every day. Why would I ever want to dim that light or be anything less than me?

There was a time I hid my true self. I may have different names and different titles – I am always me. There are many that may not understand who I am or where I come from and there was a time I was afraid to show who I am because of that. It’s okay. I am BLISS – or as my friend Lori calls it – love – ultimately Source. I don’t want to be reborn – I just want you to know who I am.

"And I don’t want the world to see me

Cuz I don’t think that they’d understand

When everything seems to be broken,

I just want you to know who I am

I just want you to know who I am"

From City of Angels sound track, Iris – Goo Goo Dolls

Blissings...Teri

(Disclaimer: This post is part of the free #Trust30 - 30 day writing challenge. Check it out and jump in. What are you afraid of?)

#Trust30 - Choose Bliss

2011-06-09T05:45:00.000-07:00

Day 10

(Photo by JawDroppingPhotography.com)

To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all men, that is genius. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

What is burning deep inside of you? If you could spread your personal message RIGHT NOW to 1 million people, what would you say?

Choose BLISS! Simple, isn’t it. Choose to do that which brings you the most happiness and fulfillment, for the highest good of all. If it’s too challenging, if you are experiencing too many road blocks, maybe it’s not the best path for you. Take a new one. It's that easy.

Blissings...Teri

Always do what you are afraid to do!

2011-06-09T04:45:00.000-07:00

Day 9 - #Trust30

The other terror that scares us from self-trust is our consistency; a reverence for our past act or word, because the eyes of others have no other data for computing our orbit than our past acts, and we are loath to disappoint them. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Emerson says: “Always do what you are afraid to do.”

What is ‘too scary’ to write about? Try doing it now.

“A reverence for our past act or word, because the eyes of others have no other data for computing our orbit than our past acts, and we are loath to disappoint them.”

This is such a powerful statement. As a writer and speaker, I still get that “knots in my stomach” feeling every time I post or am in front of an audience. There was a time when no amount of money or act of kindness could put me in front of people. To some that may be shocking. But I was afraid of what people would think of me, what they may think of my actions and what they may ask or say to me, during and after. Those fears are, and were, simply an illusion.

What’s the worst that can happen – a booger on my face or a stain on my shirt; maybe I’ll trip over my words or fall on my face? Nobody’s really going to remember any of those 10 years from now. Ok, maybe they will remember the booger, I probably would. I know at least one person benefits from my facing my fears and delivering words in print or live, ME! After it’s done, my fears are erased - until the next time.

“Thoughts are just thoughts! I don’t have to allow them to overwhelm me” from Daily OM. Instead, I know they exist in me and I consistently move with, through and past them.

Blissings to all!

(Disclaimer: This post is part of the free #Trust30 - 30 day writing challenge. Check it out and jump in. What are you afraid of?)

#Trust30 - jumping in

2011-06-07T07:42:00.000-07:00

As a writer, one of my biggest challenges has been allowing myself the time to simply write. Thanks to my Facebook Friend, Gina Rafkind, I am making a commitment to write for 30 days straight with the #Trust30 writers challenge offered at ralphwaldoemerson.me/ Self Reliance. Emerson is one of my favorites - truly an inspiration.

For the next 22 days I will respond to the #Trust30 promptings here on my blog. Since I started late, I'm going to go back and read the first 7 promptings and comment on them, as well.

I encourage you to read, respond and even join the challenge if you are SPARKED to do so!
As always, many BLISSINGS to you all!

Day 8

There will be an agreement in whatever variety of actions, so they be each honest and natural in their hour. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

What would you say to the person you were five years ago?

To the Teri of 5 years ago I say, “Choose Bliss!” That’s right, sister. You have chosen to live your bliss – making a commitment to live in joy. No matter what is happening externally, what happens internally will continually make a difference for you. Breathe, simplify, and be mindful of each moment. Don't just follow your bliss and everyone else’s; choose to live YOUR bliss.

What will you say to the person you’ll be in five years?

You are a light, shining brightly in this universe. It doesn’t matter whether your SPARK ignites one life or 10,000 lives simply keep the flame burning. The law of the universe dictates that positive energy is contagious. Bliss ON, sister!

A turtle’s perspective – In memory of my father

2011-05-28T08:12:00.000-07:00

Are you a turtle? My father used to ask everyone he met that question. As a young military man he was inducted in to The Turtle Club. Up until the day he died he lived the Turtle Creed!

“Turtles are bright eyed, bushy tailed, fearless and unafraid folk with a fighter pilot attitude. They think clean, have fun a lot, and recognize the fact that you never get any place worthwhile in life unless you stick your neck out.”

He was a POW in World WAR II. This Memorial Day (and everyday) I honor him by giving you 5 tips for living a slower, more complete life – consider the turtle!

Take it Slow – that’s right. Slow down and enjoy the view. Be present in the moment. Don’t let life move so fast that you miss what’s right in front of you.
Play A LOT and nap often - My dad literally danced through life. Although he worked hard, he danced when he could, played cards and games with his family and friends, and went fishing several times a year. He also rested when his body told him it needed to. Do something fun everyday and give yourself permission to take a siesta!!
Eat when you’re hungry – Listen to your body and eat when you’re hungry. Be sure to eat nutritious foods that fuel your mind and your spirit. Turtles tend to eat a natural diet, one that consists of proteins and vegetables.
Celebrate your accomplishments – It’s important that we recognize our accomplishments, especially the small ones. This creates a positive response that propels us into a bright future. (Remember, turtles are bright eyed and bushy tailed for a reason!)
Don’t be afraid to stick your neck out – Make mistakes; they’re life changing. Help someone in need; it’s worth the effort for everyone, including you. Speak up; let your inner voice be heard, someone really needs to hear your message. Show the world who you really are and be proud of yourself.

Yes, this was my father’s creed. He believed that life, to be lived fully, meant slowing down and enjoying the view. He helped as many people as he could, napped a lot and ate when he was hungry. I’m following in his footsteps and am off to take a nap!

“You will find that life is more fun and takes on new meaning when you are a Turtle!”

Blissings…Teri

P.S. If you’d like to become a turtle, simply email me and I’ll send you the 4 questions every member must answer for initiation.

Peace of mind is as easy as 1, 2, 3

2011-05-10T16:26:00.000-07:00

What exactly does that mean, Peace of Mind? Does it mean that you are never bothered by anything? Does it mean being in a seemingly super drugged out state of "Blissville"? We're human. Stuff can bother us. We get annoyed, frustrated, and well, pissed off!

Maniacal drivers, crabby cashiers, loud startling noises, double dipping, parents who don't pay attention to their children (like leaving them in a car while they run in to shop) are some of the triggers on my list of things that cause me to go from The Bliss Lady to The Pissed Lady.

Peace of Mind, to me, means recognizing when these and other actions irritate me, connecting with the emotions and feelings attached to those things and finding my way back to balance. It means living with my own actions, without regret or guilt and being comfortable with who I am. It's a feeling of calmness and serenity, even when the life around me seems off kilter, out of synch and just crazy.

How do we reconnect with that "inner bliss" when something throws us off? Just like riding a bike, it begins with practice. There are a few simple tools you can use, right now, to create more Peace of Mind in your life.

1. Breathe - When something threatens to rock your Peace of Mind, breathe. Pretty simple, right? Studies have shown that deep breathing, even for just a few minutes, can significantly reduce stress and anxiety, bringing you back to a place of calmness and serenity. Learning deep breathing techniques, meditation, and/or yoga can significantly reduce your overall levels of anxiety and stress, which naturally leads to more patience and tolerance of others.

2. Smile - Smiling, even for a minute, reduces blood pressure, releases serotonin, improves the immune function, lifts the face and causes others to smile, too. It's creates a chain reaction of positive energy.

3. Laugh - One of the greatest sounds on Earth is laughter. It's infectious; one can't help but feel better when laughter is shared! A good laugh benefits us physically, emotionally and spiritually and its effects can last in the body for hours. “Your sense of humor is one of the most powerful tools you have to make certain that your daily mood and emotional state support good health.” ~ Paul E. McGhee, Ph.D. Practice Laughter Yoga (I do!) and begin laughing for no reason today- you'll get the benefits both physiologically and psychologically and so will those around you.

These 3 FREE and easy to tap into techniques can be used immediately to reconnect you with your Peace of Mind, where you feel calmer and more at ease. They work for me and countless others, too! Breathe, Smile and Laugh your way to a more blissful life!

Blisstory question: What are the things you love, honor, cherish and admire most about your mom?

2011-05-05T07:18:00.000-07:00

(This is an edited version of a post from May, 2009)
First things first, above all else, I cherish the life she gave me. That's why everyday is Mother's Day in our house. She provided a strong foundation and house of love for all of her family. Today, that foundation is as strong as ever. At 79 years old, she still has that spunky, defiant, never give up attitude. Yeap, that’s where I get it from. She is the original Bliss Networker!

I truly admire her ability to pick herself up when she’s hit with a blow; she’s had more blows than I can count. She’s suffered the loss of a child, the loss of her lifetime partner, 3 heart attacks, 2 strokes, breast cancer, lung cancer and lives with COPD and arthritis; nothing diminishes her love of life (or her love of gambling and Tim Horton's coffee!) LOL

My mom is my first real friend. She is the person I call for everything: good, bad or indifferent. A day doesn't go by that we don't chat, even if for just a minute.

Along with being my friend and mother, she has 5 other children who love and adore her as equally as I do. She is a friend and mother to countless others and is always taking in strays. Today, her youngest grandson (my "baby" boy) occupies a room at the "Grambo Inn". You just never know who might be taking up space in one of her rooms. She is a mother in law, grandmother, great grandmother, sister, aunt, great aunt, great, great aunt, and so much more. When I think about the many people that have crossed her path, I know that each one of them was impacted in a positive way by her presence and smile.

Today and every day I honor Janet Rose Griffin, the woman that brought me into this world. I love her enthusiasm, excitement, stubbornness, fortitude, graciousness, and her capacity to love, especially her family. Here’s to you mom!

I'm also honoring Susan Williams, where ever her spirit may be. You were a remarkable woman and your light shines bright in our family. THANK YOU for bringing my husband into this world. You are a shining star, Susan!

OK, so here's a gift for all of you! Simply click Sisstory Now for a complimentary E-Book copy of "The Sisstory Journal" - dedicated to my mom, my daughter, my sister and all of you - Rockin women around the world! (Offer good through May, 8, 2011) Sisstory provides over 365 delightful questions, actions, and more for celebrating the feminine spirit!

And a little self promotion:
Pick your mom up one of our delightful other E-books, Girlavanting, The Girls Guide to Balance, Bliss and Fun or Blisstory Journal today. Share her life, share her legacy, have a whole lot of fun celebrating her!

Happy Mother's Day, every day, to all!

How do you make decisions? The flip of a coin?

2011-04-27T15:13:00.000-07:00

Some of my family members find it very difficult to make a decision. Seemingly easy decisions become a grueling process. I often find myself saying, "Flip a coin!" In fact, I've used that technique on many occasions. Isn't not making a decision - making a decision? Choosing to stay indecisive is saying you're staying exactly where you are or that you accept what's going on.

There was a time when I would make decisions rather quickly, which wasn't always a good thing, especially when it came to business decisions. I've learned to go within more, trusting my intuition and listening to the inner whispers of my soul or as my friend Lori Lipten puts it, "Listening to my inner GPS". When that doesn't "feel right" I seek the advice of a trusted colleague, friend or family member. Sometimes I revert to one of the many oracle decks I've acquired over the years.

Oracle cards are an ancient method of receiving guidance and messages. An oracle deck generally consists of 44 cards. Each card has a picture or drawing and contains a word or sentence. Generally the decks come with a guide book, giving some insight on the cards. (I'm in the process of creating a Bliss Deck now - you're going to love it!)

One of my favorite decks is Dr. Steven J. Farmers "Power Animal Oracle Cards". Many of you may already realize that ancient and indigenous peoples across the globe believe Power Animal Spirit Guides help in their everyday lives by providing guidance. The theory is that we all have Power Animal Spirits. Stevens deck contains 44 cards and a guide book. When I'm having difficulty making a decision sometimes I visit the decks, think about my decision or dilemma and choose a card. The message is usually very appropriate to my situation and extremely helpful; sometimes even leaving me in awe of the power behind the message.

If you don't have a deck, I suggest you grab one or call or email me. I'd be happy to pull a card for you and share the description. It's a little more fun than flipping a coin. Guess what card I just pulled - The Antelope - who is all about decisiveness! Pretty cool, huh!

Blissings...

But Mom those are my friends....

2011-04-21T06:54:00.000-07:00

The love of Facebook

5 years ago I literally banned my daughter from being on Facebook, the online social networking community that is EVERYWHERE! She was connecting with people all over the world that she didn't even know; the goal being to collect as many "friends" as she possibly could. She would adamantly say, "But Mom, those are my friends!" With that goal in mind, most of her peers announced the same thing to their parents.

From a parents perspective it was a dangerous trap - it scared the heck out of me. I felt there was too much information being shared and too many people had access to that information. I remember telling her, "Those people are not your friends, they're simply names and faces".

Well, today, I've changed my tune completely. In fact, part of the professional service I offer my clients is how to get on Facebook and how to effectively use it for your business. I've seen my clients businesses grow by 30% simply by creating a Fanpag e and interacting with their fans. I've also made some wonderful friends, yes friends! Not just names and faces.

In taking the time to get social with the people I'm connected with, I've built friendships with many that I would NEVER have had the opportunity to meet in the past, both new and old. Those connections run from California to Georgia, from Illinois to Florida and across the globe to Europe, Australia, South America and New Zealand. (You all know who you are.) These people and their friendships have enhanced my life as powerfully as the friends I connect with in person and who are in my local community, bringing inspiration and joy to my life on a daily basis. Facebook also offers us the chance to keep in touch with those who have moved away/relocated, who are house bound or simply too shy to chat in person.

There is still a lot of controversy about Facebook and the information being shared. I do encourage my clients to be somewhat discreet and cautious about what they post and who they accept into their Facebook Circle. There are those that will take advantage of you no matter what you do or say, on line and off line.

Gratitude rocks and I am thankful for Facebook and the many opportunities it has provided me both personally and professionally. Especially those I call my friends. Thank you for adding a little more bliss to my life! And a GINORMOUS thank you to those of you who shared in my birthday bliss, sending wishes of love, light, peace, prosperity and again, bliss.
That's what friends are for!!

Are you a Virtual First Responder?

2011-03-21T13:10:00.000-07:00

Do you know what a first responder is?

I like this definition: Person who, in the early stages of an emergency event, works to protect and preserve life, property, evidence, and the environment. First responders may include personnel from federal, state, local, tribal, and nongovernmental organizations. Yeap...It might include you.

Very powerful, right? Guess what - We all have the capacity to be a first responder and here's a little info from a wonderful site called "Intentions Flashmob", explaining how you can become a Virtual First Responder.

Would it surprise you to know

how powerful we can be?

A disaster happens. The TV is filled with repetitive images and video of destruction, which creates more fear and depletes our energy. Some people become overwhelmed and shut down. Others become anxious and depressed, even if the event is not in their local area. Is there another way to respond? Just ask the Intentions Flashmob networks forming across the country. We are a free community of Virtual First Responders using our social networks to send positive healing intentions toward any stressful event.

Can we actually impact our world? Back in 1987, Physicist Robert Jahn and Clinical Psychologist Brenda Dunne offered definitive research at Princeton University. Their research cited "accumulated unequivocal evidence that the mind can physically interact with physical reality". Using the power of our intentions can do just that.

Giving moves us past the place of fear. As Virtual First Responders not directly involved in a stressful event, we can offer quick virtual relief through our positive intentions for balance and peace. We can also help dissolve an event before it grows, as in the case of a threatening storm, flood, or fire in our local community. It's simple--just send a positive intention and pass it on to your social network to do the same. There is no leader; you are the leader.

Wouldn't it be great to practice and experience the power we have? If you are curious, go to Intentions Flashmob for more information and please consider starting an Intentions flashmob in your social network. If you are on Facebook, click here and "LIKE" the Intentions Flashmob fan page.

*We don't have to meet anywhere, we're all connected.* By Intentions Flashmob

Bliss on!!!

How do you serve?

2011-03-17T10:02:00.000-07:00

Living a life of servitude - family first

A few months ago, while prepping for a client meeting, one of my colleagues suggested I NOT mention that I had recently been spending a huge amount of time on family responsibilities and obligations. It really floored me that she even suggested that. Serving my family is a gift that I am honored to receive. I will not wear a cloak to cover that reality.

Since November a large amount of my time has been spent assisting family members (and friends) in various ways - mainly health related issues. That's what comes with being a parent (and daughter). Serving our family doesn't stop because the "Open for business sign" is on. In fact, serving family never stops, in my book!

When we become parents we are automatically committed to a life of servitude: as our parents age, the role is reversed and we must serve them. It doesn't stop because our children reach a certain age or become financially independent. No doubt I will be helping my family in some way until the day I die.

My work - my life's purpose - is serving humanity in the best way possible, beginning at home and filtering out to the community, including the business community, my clients. When I am helping others, especially my family, for whatever reason, there is so much joy and contentment present. If I can make their load a little lighter and their day a little brighter, I am doing my work well.

As a client or potential client, colleague or friend, what you realize when you hear me speak of servitude is that I am devoted to and passionate about serving, which naturally filters to you.

How do you serve? I am proud to say my family comes first and BLISSED to be able to live up to the commitment to serve humanity in whatever capacity I can.

Are you liked? 10 ways to keep the like box checked!

2011-03-08T10:22:00.000-08:00

Catchy title isn't it? Reminded me of when I was young. Think back to elementary or middle school. Did you ever get one of those cute little notes from someone that said, "Do you like me - check yes or no?" Or maybe you gave one of those cute little notes to someone and wondered about what you would do when they checked "yes"!

Facebook is the big people form of a "do you like me note" only instead of it being dropped on the desk of that cute little boy (or girl) across the room, it's dropped on millions of desks around the world. I recently read that the average Facebook fan spends a minimum of 55 minutes per day on Facebook. So, what do you do when you are finally "liked"? How do you keep them on your page for a few of those 55 minutes?

Here are 10 suggestions for keeping that "like" box checked:

1. Get social - Facebook is "Social Networking" - you must engage in conversation
2. Update your page daily
3. Post minimally - don't barrage your followers with too many posts per day
4. Offer a complimentary gift now and then
5. Repost other valuable and reliable information
6. Add photo's and change your profile picture occasionally
7. Host a contest for fans only
8. Add short video's
9. Promote and share other fans pages
10. Create a cool landing page, with a sign up from for your newsletter/blog - keep your fans informed

There's more where those came from. Facebook is simply another tool to build relationships and keep them going strong. Once your liked, it's up to you to keep that relationship flourishing. If you don't have a Fan Page for your business, call me! I'd love to help you get one set up and share more details on how to 'get liked and keep liked!'

So...Do you like me? Please visit my Fan Page and click "LIKE" if you do!

Bliss ON!!!

Everybody's talking about love!

2011-02-08T12:11:00.000-08:00

Everybody starts talking "love" when February 1 rolls around. Whether you're feeling love or not, it's everywhere! Some of us talk about it year round like Christine Arylo, Founder of Madly In Love With Me Day, Marci Shimoff, author of Love For No Reason and even Lance Armstrongs' Live Strong Foundation.

"And now, here is my secret, a very simple secret: it is only with the heart that one can see clearly; what is essential is invisible to the eye." ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery

That quote was posted on Dr. Julie Krulls Facebook Fan Page, Dr. Julie on Your Be autiful Mindful Life. For me, it sent ripples of joy (bliss, love) up and down my spine.

What is essential is love - beginning with a deep love for oneself!

If you're cringing at the mere sound of "the L word" maybe, just maybe, it's time to begin embracing the love of your life - YOU! For many years I have said that in order to love anyone or anything we need to love ourselves first. How do you begin loving yourself unconditionally, especially after years of being conditioned not to? The first step is probably the easiest - choose to do it! Remember the Nike commercials, "Just Do IT!" Right now decide to love yourself, simply because you exist - without judgment, without expectations.

We have been pre-programmed to think of self love as egocentric and narcissistic when in reality how can we truly love anyone or anything if we aren't loving ourselves first? Life is one big relationship - our relationship with "me" comes first.

Back to how to do it. Last year I became one of a handful of Self Love Ambassadors across the country and took the 40 day self love challenge.
You can take that challenge, too. Visit MadlyInLoveWithMe.com and join the challenge. You'll get a mini adventure guide to get you started, complete with how to's, self love vow's and practical, fun self love practices. Before you do that, tune in to Welcome to Blissville at Empoweradio.com and listen to Christine Arylo share why she created the Madly In Love With Me International Day of Self Love. You'll get an earful, for sure!

Want more? Visit The Lance Armstrong Foundation at LiveStrong.com and read the article on Unconditional Self Love and Acceptance. According to the Foundation, "When you are the recipient of unconditional self acceptance and self-love from yourself, you feel:

• Free to be yourself
• That you have value and worth
• Wanted and desired for you as you are rather than for what you do
• Listened to and understood
• That you have yourself to offer others, which in itself is worthwhile

And so much more! There's a whole list of what you receive when you begin to love yourself first. There's also a whole list of what you don't get - like freedom to be yourself.

What's my secret? Everyday I'm doing the work, learning to love myself for exactly who I am and where I've been. Like the quote at the beginning - I'm learning to see clearly, with my heart.

Commit to making everyday Valentine's Day by loving you first. Go ahead, make everyday a love day!

Bliss ON!

Be part of a Bliss Brigade

2011-01-26T05:38:00.000-08:00

Many, many years ago I remember telling my dad to "Just throw your thoughts to the Universe and you'll get an answer!" For a long time he thought my notions of letting go were silly, ok, Crazy! Today, I tell my husband the same thing. No doubt sometimes, like my father did, he thinks I'm a little out there. I am...and it's ok....I'm very happy!

A few weeks ago I mentioned to a group of friends that I would like to start a monthly giving collection, choosing a new group or person each month that had specific needs we could work to fill. I was thinking that it would be great to be able to donate "extra stuff" or create a fundraiser for an organization or person that may have a strong need. Today, everybody needs something - some may need it more than others. Last week, the Universe answered in a big way. A small group of women, from all over the globe, have come together to create what I'm calling a Bliss Brigade, with many Brigadiers.

My favorite definitions of Brigade are:

1. a formation of fighting units, together with support arms (and shoulders to cry on) and services, smaller than a division and usually commanded by a brigadier
2. a group of people organized for a certain task: a rescue brigade
3. a line of persons formed to extinguish a fire by passing on buckets of water quickly from a distant source: a bucket brigade
4. any group of persons who cooperate to help cope with an emergency.

Ten years ago my family experienced a devastating house fire. Without the help of my "sisters", friends and family, my own personal rescue bridgade, I would not have gotten through it as easily as I did. They offered ears to listen, shoulders to cry on, help digging through the wreckage, food, clothing, a place to stay and much more. During the first 48 hours many people stepped up to assist, some of them strangers. It was more than I could have ever imagined possible. You know the saying, "words cannot express...".

Words cannot express the deep sense of gratitude I feel towards those people (and the Universe) for being there when we needed help most. I'm quite sure my father, who had passed on many years before, was one of those that answered my call to the Universe. No doubt, he somehow managed to wake me up in the middle of the night to rescue my family!

Today, one of our "sisters" child needs constant medical care and a very costly treatment. In less than 72 hours a group of incredible people has come together to help a family in need. Although many of us have never met this family in person, we have stepped up to help pay for that treatment, send love and prayers, and give support to this family in any way we can. How? We are doing this through financial donations and monetary gifts, clothing, food deliveries, cleaning services, and more. We are creating our own brigade, filling our sisters' bucket and putting out her fires by stepping up and lending a hand to her and her family, in whatever way we can.

This week I am offering you a chance to help without even leaving your home! To help this sister and her family I am donating 35% of The Sisstory Journal EBOOK to this Bliss Brigade, that's $1.75 for each EBOOK sold. The Sisstory Journal contains over 365 entertaining, engaging and sometimes enlightening questions about your sister relationships and YOU! Each copy comes with complimentary gifts from some pretty amazing sisters!

Click here now to immediately become part of this powerful mission and help in the smallest of ways. For less than $5.00 your Sisstory Journal EBook will be delivered to your in box, an incredible book of discovery, and you support a "sister" who's bucket is less than half full...That's what Sisstory is all about!

For more information about this project, feel free to email me at teri@theblissentwork.com.

Come on - be a part of our Bliss Brigade!

A Hug A Day!

2011-01-20T05:35:00.000-08:00

It's that time of year again - time to celebrate one of my favorite forms of therapy - hugging. Yes, folks, this Friday, January 21 is National Hugging Day. As I say with most holidays, National Hugging Day needs to be celebrated every day for us to thrive. Virginia Satir, a Wisconsin Marriage and Family Therapist agrees, "For human beings, you need two hugs a day to survive, four hugs for maintenance, six hugs to grow."

The hug is one of the most common human signs
of love and affection.

My Dad was the first person I knew to celebrate hugging! He was truly an inspiration to me and many others. Talk about a giver! He wore a button on his suit coat that said, “Everyday is a hug day” and treated his employees with compassion, honesty and integrity. His team knew they could count on him for support, no matter what, and they knew they’d get a big hug when needed!

According to an article I found in his effects after he died, “Hugging is painless, unless you are hugged by Hulk Hogan." The article ran June 11, 1986 in The Way We Live section of The Detroit Free Press and was titled, “Get Ready for the Big Squeeze” celebrating the 3rd Huggers Holiday. What better way to get your mojo on than a friendly hug.

There are some pretty basic hug styles. Below is a list of the most common types:

• The A-Frame: Shoulders are barely touching. Mostly done by members of the opposite sex
• One Sided: Moving only slightly closer, the huggers have close contact at one shoulder
• Two-Sided: There is close contact with both shoulders, but both stand with lower torsos apart. Sometimes the huggers may even step back and kiss each cheek.
• The Full On: From shoulders to the tips of your toes and every place in between!
• The Group Hug: You get it! Someone in the group yells, “Group Hug” and everyone joins in a big hug!
• The Run-and-Jump: Ever watch reunions at the airport? Those are my favorite – when two people run and jump into each others arms, with huge smiles on their faces – sometimes even tears!

One of my very favorite hug styles is in the form of a "Deep Hugging Meditation". Last year my friend Sean, Director at the Detroit Lotus Sangha, and I shared this practice with our group. It is one of the most powerfully moving styles of hugging I've experienced. It truly connects you with the person you are hugging in a way that shows a deep honor and regard for that soul, affirming that you are really there for them. In this book, Teachings on Love, Thich Nhat Hanh writes, "To be really there, you only need to breathe mindfully, and suddenly both of you become real. It may be one of the best moments in your life."

You might want to let people know ahead of time that you are celebrating National Hugging Day. Click here now to watch a few great National Hugging Day videos!! Remember, it’s all about giving – giving of you to brighten someone’s life, even if for only a moment! Start your hug campaign with a smile, after all a smile is the best way to welcome anyone. How many hugs are you going to give?

Bliss ON!

Building your business – from the heart

2011-01-10T13:01:00.000-08:00

The other day I received a call from a friend of mine who was having difficulty with a client. The client presented a list of items and services needed, as well as a budget. She gave him a price. The first thing he did was begin to barter, in a “not so friendly way” wanting to cut the estimate in half, even though she stayed within his budget, as well as threw in many extras. She is the type of contractor that continuously provides her clients with more than just what is on the bottom line.

What I began to think of was heart centered businesses, integrity, loyalty, value and devotion. Because I come from a place of trust, providing value to my clients, when I am presented with an estimate or bid, I generally think that the service provider is giving me what he perceives to be the best value. I know if I am hiring someone for a service, it’s probably for something I am a) not qualified to handle or b) simply don’t want to handle for any number of reasons. I know that I have aligned myself with people that practice coming from a place of being a heart centered business and that I can trust the process.

What does that mean? A heart centered business? It means that the business owner and service provider:

- Realizes that we live in a monetary society, that we need to have that exchange in order to survive and thrive
- Understands the concept of integrity by adhering to certain moral and ethical principals – like I told my children, “Don’t lie, cheat or steal”
- Recognizes the mutual benefit of providing value to each client and perceives their own value to others
- Is loyal to his/her clients and faithful to his commitments and obligations, “Do what you say, and more”
- Is devoted to and passionate about helping people feel better and change their lives
- Comes from a place of gratitude and abundance.

Sarah Ban Breathnach said, “Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend.”

I believe that when we provide a heart centered business and practice living our lives from a place of abundance and love, our garden grows beyond our wildest dreams.

Here’s to planting your garden with seeds from the heart. Bliss On!

A decade of growth, change and love

2011-01-04T16:51:00.000-08:00

This year I did something completely out of sync for me - I spent the better part of the month of December "playing". It was an amazing ending to the decade of growth and change I've experienced. It was also the beginning of a wonderful new decade, one that will bring even greater joy.

Oh, I worked a little, if that's what you call interviewing amazing people who shared the best of themselves with all of us. If you haven't tuned in yet, visit Empoweradio.com and listen to the interviews. Each guest shares incredible insight on the road to bliss. More work - if that's what you call writing my next book, cooking, baking, and shopping for my family. Mostly I took time to hang out with my family, my friends, my pets and my husband.

At the beginning of 2010 one of the intentions I posted on my Bliss Board was that I wanted to strengthen the bonds of the relationships that brought me the greatest joy. Over the course of the year, I focused on creating more opportunities to love, to be compassionate, to share kindness and to celebrate with awareness. Those 4 words have made an incredible difference in my life, especially in this last decade, and I am so grateful for every moment.

As I wrote the story of my year, thanks to the great advice of Lori Lipten, I realized that the story really began 10 years ago. January 1, 2011 was the 10 year anniversary of a devastating house fire my family and I experienced. Many of you have heard my story or read my blogs. My family and I were fortunate to have literally escaped death on New Year's Day. The Fire Marshal said, "Lady, someone up there is watching out for you. 99% of all people that experience the type of fire you did, don't make it out alive." I believed him then. I believe him now. Of course, I write this with tears of bliss streaming down my face. So grateful to be alive; even more grateful that my family is all here with me.

Shortly after that fire, I ended my 2nd marriage. I remember sitting on the bathroom floor one morning, before the fire, praying for a miracle, praying for the strength to move on. That fire was my miracle and changed the course of my life. Never again would I settle for anything less than love, kindness, and compassion. From that day on I choose to live by practicing being mindful and aware, living in the moment, honoring the past and looking forward to the future.

For almost 8 years now, I have been married to my best friend and partner. When we first married, I said, "As long as you are addicted to me, we'll do just fine!" You may laugh at that statement, but it has proven to be the foundation of our relationship. Most of you know how damaging living with someone that is addicted to anything can be for everyone involved. We turned it around and honor each other and our space, holding our relationship and our family, as something sacred, something worth cherishing.As I began this new decade, I set the intention to again create more opportunities for love, compassion, kindness and awareness, shining a bright light on my blissful path. Anyone wishing to do the same can download an official "Bliss Certificate" on my website at TheBlissNetwork.com or this link http://theblissnetwork.com/Bliss_Certificate.html

Your "Bliss Certificate" is a gentle reminder that you choose bliss! Yes the road can be bumpy. Yes, sometimes I'm the Pissed Lady instead of The Bliss Lady. It's OK - it's just an excuse for more bliss breaks!

Here's to living your bliss and celebrating your life. Bliss on!

Merry Blissmas - Everyday happiness

2010-12-13T04:35:00.000-08:00

Yes, that's right Blissmas - An everyday celebration of happiness, joy and love = Blissmas!

Over the course of the year we tend to wait until this time of year to celebrate the abundance of joy and happiness in our lives. Why is that? We celebrate with lavish gifts and too much food. Why not break it all down over the course of the year and feel joy and abundance daily?

To be aware of the effects of celebrating “Blissmas” every day begin sharing more of your own happiness and passion with others. Quite possibly you will increase the happiness level of the people in your life, even in the lives of people you don't know - the Bliss Effect!

Not sure how to begin? Take baby steps. Start learning the habits of happy people, then incorporate some of those habits into your own life. Studies have shown that it takes a minimum of 21 days to make "something" a habit and that those habits take practice. Star athletes, musicians, and dancers, practice, practice, practice. Be the star of your own team and practice being happy.

Below is a list of 6 common habits of happy people.

- Be grateful - We ALL have something to be grateful for; like food, clothing, heat, children, snow days, smiles, music, partners, lovers. You get the point. Write a gratitude journal and say thank you more often.

- Savor simple pleasures - When was the last time you sat in a park and watched the birds or listened to children playing on the play ground? Stop for a few minutes a day to enjoy and savor the simple pleasures of life, nature is full of wonder and amazement.

- Join in - Be a part of "something", engage yourself in a cause, a club, a city council, a religious group. Participate in something you believe in.

- Love yourself - It's essential for being a happy person. To truly love anyone, we must love ourselves first. Create a self-love appreciation list and look at it often.

- Surround yourself with happy, supportive people - Choose like minded people to connect with. Positive energy is contagious. Your happiness level will increase simply by being around happy people.

- Ease up - Don't beat yourself up on the off days. We all have them. Give yourself permission to feel crabby, angry, frustrated. Simply allow it to move through you and reconnect with those moments of joy, happiness, and gratitude.

Live your bliss. We were born to be happy and are here to dream big and make those dreams a reality. Enjoy the trip by being as happy as possible and share that joy with those whose lives you touch.

Merry Blissmas to all!

Time to listen

2010-12-09T08:05:00.000-08:00

Rick Schaefer, M.D. posted this quote by Al Guyant on his blog, "The top three rules of effective communication are listen, listen, listen." It is a powerful blog and he offers the top ten ideas that Mr. Guyant suggests using for better listening. I've added some of my own, below.

Jeff (my husband) and I have been practicing mindfulness, meditation and deep listening at the Detroit Lotus Sangha in Ferndale. Detroit Lotus follows the teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh, who offers a simple yet profound way of being present in the world. When we began the process we realized that we really didn't listen deeply. Most of us get so caught up in what's happening in our own minds that we pretend to be listening, with simple responses like, "oh, wow, and uh-huh". I know - I do it.

Listening is a skill that we can learn, and "good-listening" will enhance the quality of every relationship, whether personal or professional; your loved ones will realize that you really care and your clients/customers will appreciate that you actually pay attention to their wants and needs. Think about how you like to be treated and you'll know that this feels true.

Here are 8 tips to begin practicing being a better listener. Don't forget to take time to listen to yourself.

1. Be sure to allow enough time for the conversations you share - remember it's a conversation and allow ample time for BOTH parties to converse

2. Be present - keep yourself tuned in to the moment

3. Minimize outside distractions

4. Focus on what they are saying

5. Don't think about what YOU want to say

6. Ask questions, the basics: who, what, where, why, when and how

7. When you ask a question, be patient for the response. Don’t anticipate what you think the response will be

8. Don't give advice unless you are asked

Every day I catch myself not practicing these suggestions (a few years ago, I wouldn't have) especially number 8, particularly when I'm talking with my children. It's my nature to want to solve their problems and see them shine. Simply being aware of the moment that you really need to "be present" in a conversation is a great way to begin.

Here's to sharing your bliss and being heard!

Top 10 reasons to write a book

2010-11-30T04:06:00.000-08:00

Blisstory Question: Have you ever wanted to write a book?

Currently I have published 3 books, with many more on the way, including 2 manuscripts. Simply completing that first one was such an incredible feeling. Even more amazing was when I actually began to sell a few, then a few more, then a few more.

With each one I've gained more and more insight as to why everyone, especially a business owner, needs to write a book of their own. When I meet with clients, one of the best tools I can give them is The Blisstory Journal. Filled with over 365 questions of the past, present and future, the book immediately gives them insight into themselves. Whether they share the answers with me or not, the process helps me get to know them better because they begin to look at themselves with more joy. It also reaffirms my message - helping them love and accept themselves as they are right now.

Here are my top 10 reasons to get started on yours today:

1. Everyone Has a Story - Simply being alive gives you a basis for a story. We all have a story, sometimes we just don't know where to start. If you are a business owner, you have a lot of information to share. Think about how you started - what is your why? Share your passion, share your success story.
2. Expertise - When you are write about your industry, you automatically become an expert in your field.
3. Elevated Status - Generally speaking, authors are respected by the community. This will put you on a whole new playing field.
4. It's Easy! - Once you get started. For some, it's just getting started. Try writing in a journal for 21 days. The Blisstory Journal is a great tool for getting started, with over 365 questions for you to answer.
5. Increases Your Visibility - You can reach a global audience faster - radio and TV people love to interview authors.
6. Competitive Edge - Being an author or expert in your field gives you a bonus over your competition.
7. Income Stream - The obvious is that they become part of your product list on your website. At any event you participate in, whether it's a networking event, trade show or speaking engagement, you will always have books available for sale.
8. Spin Off Products - You can create additional products from your book - such as workshops and journals.
9. Books Change Lives - When you share your passion and a powerful topic, you have the capacity to change lives, especially your own.
10. Leave a Legacy/Become Immortal - Books seldom go in the garbage. Your children will keep yours long after you are gone, to be shared with family and friends. Most people either donate books to charity, sell them at garage sales or cash them in at used book stores. Your book will continuously cycle.

What are you waiting for? Grab a pen and paper - start writing your story today!

Here's to a BLISS FULL Thanksgiving

2010-11-24T04:59:00.001-08:00

Two of my favorite words are Thank You! It still amazes me how wonderful it feels to say and hear those words.

When I say them, I know that something wonderful has taken place. It could be as simple as someone holding a door for me or as huge as someone buying my groceries. Yes, that actually happened for me one year.

Several years ago, as a single mom, I literally lived paycheck to paycheck. Taking care of all the responsibilities was a tremendous effort. One Saturday afternoon, just before Thanksgiving, my sister and brother in law called to invite me shopping at my favorite store, Costco. They had just won a little extra cash and wanted to buy us food! After grabbing a few items, literally, my brother in law said, "What's that? That's not going to feed you all!" They joyfully went up and down each aisle until my cart was overflowing with enough food to feed the 3 of us for 4 months! What BLISS!

How many times a day do you say, "Thank you"? How many times a day do you hear those words? Pay attention. When we hear those words it means we've done something or said something to make a difference in another persons life. The gift of a thank you is free!

“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”
William Arthur Ward

Thank you all for being part of my blissful universe! Here's to a BLISS FULL Thanksgiving!

In gratitude....Teri

Time to take more Bliss Breaks

2010-11-16T07:48:00.000-08:00

Photo by Jeffrey Williams

The holiday season has not even officially started and people are already feeling over stressed and burned out. What's going to happen next week when the Thanksgiving festivities begin?

"We are so busy that we've multitasked our way right out of the present moment" says Thomas Crum, author of Three Deep Breaths.

Where is the bliss in that? Reconnecting with our inner joy is essential to creating peace in our lives. You don't need a 10 day vacation in the islands to find it (okay, I admit that might be nice as the weather changes.) You can start right now creating inner harmony, making room for less stress, by taking much needed bliss breaks.

Here a 7 tips to add to your tool kit and make your life a little lighter:

1. Breathe deep at least 3 times per day - Stop whatever you are doing at least 3 times per day and take 3 deep, slow purposeful breaths - filling your lungs with oxygen and your soul with life. This brings a sense of inner tranquility and can soothe away any tension.

2. Take a 15 minute walk, preferably in nature - Simply walk at a pace that feels comfortable to you. Pay attention to the ebb and flow of the natural world. There is a sweet sensation that comes over us when we observe the synchronicity of life through animals and plants.

3. Remove one thing from your life that is non-essential - We fill our time with non-essential "stuff". Think about what you do on a daily basis, ask yourself is it really bringing you joy? Eliminate one thing that feels daunting and taxing.

4. Laugh, laughter feeds the soul - Watch your favorite comedy, write down and relive the funniest thing that ever happened to you or simply sit and laugh. Laughter helps you take things lightheartedly and is one of the best forms of medicine. Bonus...it's FREE!

5. Listen to music everyday - Turn on your favorite tunes and listen. Sing if it makes you feel good, out loud if you can. Focusing on music can reduce pain, decrease depression and bring about a sense of calm.

6. Practice gratitude - Look forward to every day and be grateful for each moment. In any given minute we can find something to be grateful for; sometimes we simply don't see it. Start a gratitude journal, share with your friends what you are thankful for, including them, practice saying, "Thank you" more often.

7. Of course, Smile! No explanation needed!

Isn't it time you took a bliss break?

Share your blissings

2010-11-09T04:38:00.000-08:00

“What you give is what you get so be sure to give the best of what you imagine, of what you have, of what you are.” From Awakening to the Spirit World
Photo's by Jeffrey Williams

Sharing love and happiness, pure blissings, comes naturally to me. It can begin with a simple smile or hello to a stranger and go on to include helping out a friend or neighbor. We all have “stuff” that holds our attention, that keeps us stuck in being “selfish instead of selfless”. Sometimes the best way to get over it is to pitch in and help someone else, turning on the light and giving a spark of joy.

Last week, while at the grocery store, I witnessed a lone mother spill her bags next to her car. She was clearly in distress juggling a baby on one hip and a small child at her side. Naturally, I walked over and helped her, as many others just watched. She was a little apprehensive at first. People aren’t used to the kindness of strangers

When we were just about finished, an employee stopped to help. The cute little mom offered him a tip and he politely refused, saying he was happy to be of help. One simple gesture of kindness lifted her spirits and changed the course of her afternoon. What did it take for us to do that; minutes, seconds? Time really meant nothing.

How do you share your bliss? Are you stuck standing on the side of the parking lot wondering what to do? Do you offer a friendly hello to a stranger? What’s holding you back from being a light? Here are ten easy ideas to get you started.

1. Smile and say hello to strangers
2. Drop dinner /dessert off to a friend just because
3. Open a door for someone
4. Hold the elevator
5. Give genuine compliments
6. Let someone in line ahead of you
7. Buy coffee (or lunch) for the person in line behind you
8. Send a card or flowers to someone for no reason
9. Volunteer at a shelter for children, unwed mothers or the homeless
10. Listen, really listen, as someone tells their story

Spreading your blissings is quite rewarding; once you get started it’s hard to stop. Like the Allstate Commercial, it’s amazingly contagious. Imagine, what the world would be like if every one of us took just a few seconds a day to do something spontaneously nice…I can see it now!

Need more ideas, E-mail me… I love sharing a little bliss!

Old Fashioned Customer Service

2010-11-01T14:54:00.000-07:00

Growing up there was a family owned pharmacy around the corner from us. The pharmacists, first Marty than Al, knew our family by name - all 8 of us. No doubt they knew the names of every regular customer that walked through the door. They went above and beyond, with free delivery to patients, discounts when available and taking special care of the senior citizens. They are long gone, replaced by CVS, Rite Aid, Medco and other mail order prescription programs.

Fast forward - A few months ago we found a wonderful new pharmacy, ZMC Pharmacy, just outside of downtown Royal Oak (Michigan) that believes in the "old school" principles of great customer service - know your community, listen to your customers and be courteous and compassionate. Pharmacists Jalal and Louis know their stuff and go out of their way to accommodate their clientele.

"We were established by pharmacists who specifically wish to provide a higher level of attention to our patients. Our main focus is to offer our patients outstanding patient care and a personalized approach to their health care. By knowing your pharmacist, you have a great start to improving the quality of your health care."

NO THIS IS NOT A PAID ADVERTISEMENT! Simply sharing something that's working!

We don't take much in the way of prescription medicine, when we do, we want to buy from a source we trust, plus we really like to support local business owners. Factor in the rising costs of health care and we all like to get them at a reasonable price. At ZMC it's all of the above and more. Saturday I dropped off a prescription. They didn't have it in stock and had to order it, which would take a day. Louis offered to look on line before I returned to see if there was a manufacturers coupon available. That has never happened with me at CVS. Additionally, he spent a few minutes sharing printed material with my husband on why taking Niacin is so important and how he can save a few bucks on his next purchase.

So, if you live or work around Royal Oak I strongly suggest you transfer your prescriptions to ZMC. If you're in business I hope you'll follow their model. Today's crazy economy mandates that we do what we can to keep our customers just that - our customers!

Where would you be if you could be anywhere else? How about right where you are...

2010-10-27T15:35:00.000-07:00

Monday, I had the unexpected opportunity of driving up to Alpena with my brother and my son. After my transmission blew on the way, my brother, Thom, graciously dropped his plans for the day and scooped us up for a long drive.
(The picture to the right is actually a picture of Thom as "The Jimmer" in "Escanaba in Da Moonlight". Quite a fitting picture, I thought.)

I've traveled quite extensively throughout the U.S, never out of the country. Many times I've had trips abroad planned and paid for, only to have to cancel due to unforeseen circumstances. Most of the time I take it as the Universe's way of telling me to stay put.

Where would you be if you could be anywhere? For me, the answer to that question is pretty simple. Right here, right now. Where would I want to be other than the present moment? I am so grateful every minute to be exactly where I am, Blissville. Every day we are simply passengers on the road of life, with a choice to enjoy the view. For me, Monday was no different.

As I sat in the back seat of my brothers car I really had the opportunity to pay attention, to be mindful of the moment. What else was I going to do? Read, write, sleep or watch the view of Michigan and our beautiful Lake Huron. I chose to stay awake and enjoy the view.

I've been practicing mindfulness and awareness for quite some time. This practice constantly reminds me to be present with where I am and who I am with. I was in a vehicle traveling up the shores of Lake Huron from Detroit to Alpena. It's wonderful to see the change from summer to fall, with winter close behind. The further we traveled along the colors changed from crimson red to golden yellow; in some areas the trees were already bare. The waves were about 2' high and continuously crashed along the shoreline creating a picturesque scene. Every now and then we spotted a deer or flock of birds as they migrated south. It was truly breathtaking.

What was even more incredible was listening to my son and my brother chat, laugh and sing. Every now and then I piped up with a few comments of my own. Mainly, I simply enjoyed the sounds of the two of them loving life, laughing out loud and living in the moment. It could have been a great commercial for American Express - You know, peanut butter and jelly $4.00, ticket $40, transmission work $400 - hanging with the boys, priceless...Even listening to both of them sing Jimi Hendrix's Purple Haze over and over wasn't so bad.

Today, I encourage you to take a look around, take a walk, or take a drive with a friend, and be present to where you are and who you're with; find a little bliss. Even in the midst of a big city, there's joy - sometimes you simply need to be open...

A Bliss Challenge...when you're roaming around, pay attention to the times you see the word "bliss" on a billboard, banner, storefront, maybe even a bumper sticker. Take a picture of it and send it in to sharemybliss@theblissnetwork.com...(The one here is from my friend Alexx) We know it's out there...We want to know if you've "Got Bliss?" We will host a random drawing the first week of every month. One lucky winner will receive our custom "Got Bliss?" stickers. Thank you in advance And Many BLISSINGS to you all.

Just Connect - Share your bliss

2010-10-19T06:43:00.000-07:00

Yesterday I had lunch with a new friend, Brent Carey. Brent has created a wonderful, inspiring Internet Radio Station called Empower Radio. Each of the hosts and guests provide something to enhance, uplift and inspire your life. As we ate fabulous Thai dishes, prepared by my friend, Nokki, owner of Sukhothai Restaurant in Oak Park, our conversation naturally led to 3 things: happiness (bliss, of course), love and connecting.

The Dalai Lama says happiness can be found in 2 words - Just Connect. That's exactly what we were doing. In fact, we met by connecting on Facebook. Facebook alone has empowered millions of people to connect more than any platform ever has. Many people have escaped loneliness simply by "friending" someone on Facebook or joining any one of the thousands and thousands of groups and pages.

Each of us yearns for happiness and love. We begin our journey in life knowing nothing less. Through time, society plugs in, bombarding us with untruths and negativity from every direction. One can't help but get caught up in that flow. We can, however, choose a "different" station, a "different" path, by connecting with others who radiate within them joy, peace and love - thus bringing us closer to living and sharing our own bliss.

The Dalia Lama Says "Life dominated by misknowledge will always be unsatisfactory, but that is not a final destination; it means that we can develop wisdom to eliminate misknowledge and then live free in bliss and share that bliss with others."

If you're feeling anything less than "empowered" in life, stop what you are doing right now, take a deep breath, and say to yourself, "I choose a different path, I choose bliss" and get connecting. Not sure where to start? Connect with me on Facebook, Linked In or Twitter! I'd be happy to share a little bliss!

Perspective - from a hawks view

2010-10-12T08:04:00.000-07:00

Photo's by Jeffrey Williams

This weekend I was one of a handful of people invited to speak in Ohio at the celebration and launch of Patrick Abec's new book, "Small Business Review - Top Stories of 2010". Most of the speakers are featured in the book, including me. Why? We are entrepreneurs who have experienced challenges, tragedies and more and are finding our way to success.

Sounds like a lot of you, right? It definitely fits for most of my colleagues, friends and clients. We have all experienced suffering at one point in our lives. Mine is no greater or less than yours - it simply is.

On the way to the festivities, my husband and I witnessed the incredible migration of hawks as they traveled south. There were literally hundreds of them. Hawks have an amazing ability to adapt and survive in almost any condition. Each culture has their own definition of the messages available when witnessing a hawk. Some include: seeing the big picture, empowerment for finding the positive, being awake and aware that you can achieve great things by persistence and strength of will. Patrick’s book has over 85 messages of hope, perseverance and joy.

During the event I shared an experience that was deeply powerful and changed my life. 10 years ago my family was in a crisis. One afternoon I literally locked myself in the bathroom and prayed for a miracle. Days later, we experienced a house fire. I didn't know then the power that event would have in my life. However, sometime later I filed for divorce, from my second marriage. Both of my previous husbands were addicts; one to alcohol, the other to pain medication. 2 years later I married a fire fighter, my best friend and partner.

Our mission: sharing simple ways
to incorporate more joy into your life, easily and effortlessly,
both personally and professionally.

Today, The Bliss Network supports the business community with practical easy solutions in website development, social networking, promotions and publishing. Additionally, I host and teach workshops in self love, masterminding, intention setting and much more. I take what works for me, what keeps me smiling and share it with my clients to enhance their life.

"From the top of the mountain we witness life from a new perspective." The Daily Om, Saturday, October 10, 2010.

Doesn't that sound a little like a hawk soaring above? I say we can capture that perspective every morning when we wake up - regaining our strength and composure from whatever happened the day before and begin anew, creating ways in which to live a happier life.

Simply put...
we can choose bliss!

Everday - Breast Cancer Awareness

2010-10-05T16:52:00.001-07:00

Fifteen years ago, at age 65, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. It was one of the most significant days of my life, one that changed the way I live forever. She is one of the lucky ones, if you can call any part of her experience lucky. After a mastectomy, she survived - without having to undergo chemo or radiation treatments.

6 years later came another shocking diagnosis, lung cancer. Her doctor basically told us to take her to Vegas for a long, loving vacation. He did not think she would make it beyond 6 months. After having a lobectomy (right lung) she is cancer free. Again, no chemo or radiation. She's as sassy and spunky as ever, and in her words, "lucky, lucky, lucky!" (Me, too!)

We all know that the odds of developing breast cancer are much higher when a parent is diagnosed, so I take pretty good care of myself in the hopes that I will remain healthy and cancer free for the rest of my life. I'm thankful though to know that there is help out there for me and anyone else that needs it through organizations like Susan G. Koman, Karmanos Cancer Institute and more.

Wednesday, October 6, 2010 Through Friday, October 8, 2010, in honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, The Bliss Network and Girlavanting will be donating 20% of the proceeds from "Girlavanting, The Girls Guide to Balance, Bliss and Fun!" to the cause. Girlavanting, endorsed by Marianne Williamson, is a delightful book created to inspire, motivate and honor women of all ages, everywhere.

Celebrate the bonds of sisterhood by giving a copy of Girlavanting to all of the ladies in your life: sisters, friends, moms, daughters, and more!

In my life, breast cancer awareness is every minute of every day. Learn what you can do to prevent or heal from this devastating disease.

Bliss ON!

P.S. Visit http://www.examiner.com/birmingham-in-detroit/teri-williams for additional tips on what you can do to help yourself in the prevention of Breast Cancer

Perfectly Imperfect

2010-09-29T14:09:00.000-07:00

This is the last week of the 40 day Inner Mean Girl Cleanse and I've been a little behind in posting a weekly blog. Why? Because I'm having sooo much fun hanging out with my Inner Nice Girl! I'm catching up, though. This post is all about Unrealistic Expectations....the ones we bring on ourselves...

After having children and working from home, I realized, my house can be a mess and it's OK. I don't have to live up to anyone else's expectations and can lower my own once in a while. Everything will still be there. Life will go on...and on and on...

I used to get up extra early just to put the dishes away, mop the floors and wipe down the bathroom, especially if company or a client were coming over. (Okay, so I still get up early to wipe down the bathroom, OCD tendencies...LOL) When hosting the party, everything had to be ready right on time; cooking started days before. The dogs were sent on their own play date so as not to disrupt things too much. The kids were always dressed in something cute and spunky. Thank God my parents lived close enough to help.

As a work from home parent, the battle to keep it all together was always happening: house, kids, carpool, homework, clients in and out, working at 5:00 am before the kids got up, did I say homework and more homework, theirs and mine.
SOMEBODY STOP ME!

When my husband and I were married, both having been married before, we joined households and went from 2 kids to 5 kids; sometimes we really had a mess. 5 kids with 5 friends over, well, you get the picture. Who can keep up with that. At one point they were all teenagers, doing crazy teenager things and then some...Our house was/is where the strays would land, kids and dogs alike. It was hard enough keeping snacks in the cupboard and dinner on the table, let alone worrying about whether the dishes were done or the floors were mopped. There's more to life than cleaning and working- like family game or movie night, walks to the park, meditation and visiting the ice cream store.

Today, I figure why should I mop the floors before a party when they are just going to get dirty anyway. When making dinner plans, I go for the crock pot - let it do all the cooking. (I've got a some great vegetarian recipe's if you're interested, no one will ever know the difference, not even the kids!) Today, the dogs stay put. When we host a bash, it's a play date for everyone, including our furry friends.

And since my office is still in my house, I can walk into a meeting with dog hair on my pants and don't feel like I have to explain a thing. I can write a piece with a few mistakes, because someone needed something at exactly the time I began writing, and the only ones that are judging me are the ones stuck in their own "perfect world".

The plaque on my wall reads Perfectly Imperfect...it's a great way to live!

Bliss ON!

I am participating in the Inner Mean Girl 40-Day Cleanse as a Self-Love Ambassador. To thank me for my participation, I will receive a self-love gift from the founders of the Inner Mean Girl Reform School.

Detox from negativity by counting your blissings

2010-09-28T10:33:00.000-07:00

Photos by JAW Dropping Photography, Jeffrey Williams

What is the first thing you think of when you awake? What is the last thought you have before you go to bed? Those are 2 of the first questions to ask your clients when they are in a funk. How we begin and end each day sets the tone for our lives. Choosing to live a blissful life takes work. Start at the beginning, by counting your blissings and your work becomes a little easier. By default, gratitude makes us happier.

Abraham-Hicks said, "You have the ability to pivot under any and all conditions. But most of you are habitual in nature, and your patterns are so well entrenched that at times the fastest path to the joy you seek is for you to take your pivot as you sleep. By reaching for good-feeling thoughts before you go to sleep and then experiencing the benefit of the quiet mind that occurs while you sleep—and then upon awakening, immediately turning to good-feeling thoughts—you can accomplish the ultimate Pivoting experience."

Whether you are spiritual/religious or not, every minute gives you the opportunity to count your "blissings", those little (sometimes big) things in life that make you feel joyful, lively, and thankful.
Studies have shown that by practicing being grateful we experience lower levels of depression and stress, are more optimistic about the future, exercise more, are more likely to reach personal goals, and have more capacity for compassion and forgiveness, including forgiving ourselves.

We are creatures of habit so for the next 7 days Detox from negative thinking by beginning and ending each day with a joyful thought, one of gratitude, focusing on the abundance in your life and counting your blissings. Here's a start, "I am breathing, I am alive, I am connected to something". Easily and effortlessly begin to get rid of the harmful toxins of negativity by replacing them with light and joy.

Bliss ON!

Obligatory Obligations...

2010-09-15T05:36:00.001-07:00

Don't do anything that you don't really want to do. Keep yourself in a place of feeling good. Reach for the thought that feels better -- and watch what happens. --- Abraham

Week 3 of the Inner Mean Girl Cleanse

Here we are at week 3 of our Inner Mean Girl Cleanse and I am writing my "obligatory" blog on "obligation". There are over 20 different definitions of the word "obligation" at Dictionary.com. For this blog, I'll go with:

1. something by which a person is bound or obliged to do certain things, and which arises out of a
sense of duty or results from custom, law, etc.
2. something that is done or is to be done for such reasons: to fulfill one's obligations.
3. a favor, service, or benefit for which gratitude is due.

I am deeply grateful for this opportunity and really don't feel an obligation to write this blog. In fact, it's actually very therapeutic. I've written 3 of them so far, just on this topic. The first 2 are in my notebook, marked private, in the hopes that my family doesn't read it if they ever find it.

Between traveling and stay-cations the last few weeks, I've gotten behind on quite a few things. The reminder to do everything from a place of love could not have been sent at a more perfect time. Yes, the Universe does provide, as long as we stay awake and listen!

This week, I found myself doing many things I didn't really want to do and getting caught up in my own inner turmoil. When I was working, I thought the obligatory, "I should be cleaning, cooking or calling my mom". When I was cleaning, cooking, or chatting with my mom, I found myself thinking, "I should be working. I need to write that article or blog. I need to connect with so and so." And if I took a break from both, my first thought was, "I really should be working or doing laundry." The battle was being fought from every side.

I really thought I had a good handle on "living my bliss" and doing what felt right, on living from a place of love. I literally had to stop myself on several occasions for a reality check. We can only do so much and we really "should" love what we do and do what we love. I'm in to taking more bliss breaks!

Tomorrow the laundry is going to pile up and I'm heading off to Girlavant with my daughter - It's the perfect day for a massage and lunch, the loving thing to do for us all! Thanks, Christine and Amy for giving us permission to play and enjoy the hell out of it!

Bliss ON!

I am participating in the Inner Mean Girl 40-Day Cleanse as a Self-Love Ambassador. To thank me for my participation, I will receive a self-love gift from the founders of the Inner Mean Girl Reform School.

September - Take a Bliss Break

2010-09-08T05:56:00.000-07:00

6 Tips to Get Back to The Basics
Photos by Jeffrey Williams, JAW Dropping Photography

Summer is officially over. The kids are back in school, the weather is getting cooler and Labor Day is behind us. After flitting all over with kids and spouses it's time to get back to business. No more sleeping in, working from the pool or camping in the back yard. It's time to get organized and get going, without forgetting to take a few Bliss Breaks!

By this time of summer, I'm usually very happy to get back to my routine. Over the course of the last few weeks I really got sucked into summer. We spent a lot of time "Staycationing", entertaining and hanging out. We especially took time to enjoy nature and started walking more than we have in a long time, appreciating the balance, the ying and yang of life.

In a post on the Becoming Minimalis t Blog,Bill Gerlach said,"Nature does not want. The natural world lives in balance. There is no greed for more. Nature uses only what it needs to thrive in the most basic yet amazing way."

Taking my cue from the natural world before I dive in to work, I'm getting back to the basics, through balancing my time and work. Yes, I'm getting more organized. Below are 6 tips I found to help me along the way:

Organize First - then go shopping for what you need. Purge and donate items you haven't used in 6 months or more. Once you have everything in place, purchase any storage or filing items you need.
Set your timer - to manage your time wisely. Before you begin any task, think about how long it will really take and set the timer. Allow yourself ample time to complete the project.
Choose a calendar system - one that works best for your specific style. Today's cell phones have wonderful tools that can synch with Outlook, Yahoo, Google and more.
Write down the 3 most important tasks of the day - and stick with it until they are complete. Once you know the dirty work is done, the rest comes easy, and with less stress!
Say "NO" more often - You don't have to do everything. Be more selective about what meetings you schedule, what events you attend and how often you pitch in to help.
Take BLISS Breaks - Take breaks often to enjoy the moment. Stretch, get a cup of tea, walk around the block (or office), read something uplifting or positive, meditate. Did you know you can close your eyes, breathe deep and meditate in just minutes? A simple 1 to 3 minute meditation can truly enhance the quality of your day. (Of course, a 20 minute meditation is even better!)

As the leaves begin to turn to vibrant shades of yellow, orange and red, I'm appreciating the view from y office window and the cool, crisp air blowing in. It's a lot different than sitting at the lake, but just like nature, I'm going with the flow.

Whatever you are doing this fall, honor you and your space by getting a little more organized. Get back to nature if you can and carry your bliss with you so you're ready for a spontaneous Bliss Break anytime.

Bliss ON!

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Stop Comparisons and Be Gentle On Yourself

2010-09-07T04:59:00.001-07:00

"Be gentle with yourself, there is no one quite like you - What a miraculous thought!"

Week 2 of the 40 Day Inner Mean Girl Cleanse

This week's IMG challenge of comparison reminded me of something from my past. A former teacher used to tell me , "Be gentle with yourself, there is no one quite like you!" She was so right!

Every time I find myself going down that lonely "if only" road I stop myself and breathe - finding that one thing that I feel wealthy and inspired in, adding a mental thank you to the universe, including the who or what that popped up to bounce me down that path. Yes, that Inner Mean Girl works hard to bring us down sometimes.

This week, I walked into an event that was supposed to be casual. I wore jeans and a wonderful summer shirt. Looking around, I noticed everyone was in a dress. Yes, I felt totally out of place - for a minute! What the heck, I was very comfortable. To me, there's nothing like a great pair of jeans!

Two things immediately came to mind. One, the room was freezing and I was going to be warm, especially since I had the foresight to bring a sweater. Two, since there were no pads on the wood chairs, my legs were going to be nice and warm. I founds something to appreciate and feel grateful for. I still imagined that a few women were thinking I was totally out of place. WHATEVER! (My childrens favorite response to everything)

We have literally thousands of impressions that run through our minds at any given moment. There's always a choice as to which impression we will follow, keeping in mind that we are way beyond our bodies and our minds. We are "super-blissilicious" souls spreading our wings and flying high.

David Ji of the Chopra Center says, "This moment right now can be the most amazing moment in your life regardless of what is swirling around you...It's always a choice!"

Bliss ON!!

Gossip, Gossip, Gossip!

2010-09-02T12:52:00.000-07:00

Week One of My Inner Mean Cleanse with
Christine Arylo and Amy Ahlers

Gossip - Enough is Enough!

So, I'm perfectly imperfect. Yes, that has been my mantra around the house for years. Every now and then I rationalize why it's "OK" to say just this one thing about "someone" or "something" and to jump in and comment when my girls are talking trash about someone. Why? Because I'm human.

In following the teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh I have learned to step back and be aware of when I do fall into the "gossip" trap. However, because I do have that "Inner Mean Girl" who randomly wants to be heard, sometimes my awareness button doesn't turn on.

Does being aware that my awareness button didn't turn on count as part of the process to cleaning up that "Inner Mean Girl"?

One thing I've realized is that I am aware of when I am falling into that space and catch myself by using the tips suggested - changing the subject or finding something nice to say instead. Sometimes I even boldly state that "I am not commenting" or "I am practicing kindness and compassion". This week I added, "I'm getting rid of that 'Inner Mean Girl' and we are working on speaking with love." That really sparked a conversation, starting with "Who the heck is she?"

This week it was particularly challenging for me as I was with a friend who loves to gossip. At times I found myself rationalizing as to why it was OK to discuss this topic, even though I knew it was still gossip. In the end I literally had to walk away so I didn't get sucked further into the abyss.

The bottom line is that it's not OK to gossip. It's really just the ego's way of stepping in to control something that is of no value or use to us. Most of the time it's easy for me to say, "I don't even want to know or hear about it". Focusing on kindness and compassion is the key. Knowing that each and every one of us suffers in some way makes it easy to find something to love and cherish in others.

This week's challenge only reinforced my mission of sharing a little more bliss with the planet. Can't wait to see what's next!

P.S. I am participating in the Inner Mean Girl 40 Day Cleanse as a Self Love Ambassador. To thank me for my participation, I will receive a self-love gift from the founders of Inner Mean Girl Reform School.

Two Magic Words

2010-09-01T08:31:00.000-07:00

By Guest Blogger Kate Nasser

(This, to me, seems so simple....Really felt it needed sharing...)

Two Magical Words for Best 21st Century People-Skills

Two recent experiences gave me insight to update this post (original was June 2010) to include even more value of the two magical words. Enjoy this post and the updates shown below in green.
As you read the title of this post, two magical words for the best people-skills (also known as soft skills or interpersonal skills), you might immediately think of please and thank you. While these classics are still very valuable people-skills words, they are superseded by two words that are magical even when you just think them.

Could the two words be:

Trust & respect? Admittedly crucial yet just thinking them doesn’t necessarily produce great interactions.

Intuition & connection? Some people have little intuition yet they learn great people-skills.

What are the two magical words for the best 21st century people-skills?

“What If”

What if … helps you consider other people’s views.
What if … bonds with diverse customers.
What if … delivers unique customer care.
What if … engages and empowers employees.
What if … builds bonds on teams.
What if … leads people out of the fear of the unknown.
What if … frees you of the limits of your own perspective.
What if … encourages people to think outside-the-box.
What if … allows a fresh start after poor performance.
What if … opens people’s minds to constructive criticism.

What else does this magical two word phrase do? Or do you have another favorite two word phrase for the best 21st century people-skills?

Kate Nasser is The People-Skills Coach and brings her insights to your organization in workshops, webinars, and dvds on profitable people-skills for teamwork and customer care. See her in action at Kate Nasser video footage.

What if you choose bliss? Imagine...

Women's Equality Day - Everyday!

2010-08-26T05:34:00.000-07:00

Women's Equality Day

August 26 is designated in the United States as Women's Equality Day. Instituted by Rep. Bella Abzug and first established in 1971, the date commemorates the passage of the 19th Amendment, the Woman Suffrage Amendment to the U.S. Constitution, which gave U.S. women full voting rights in 1920.

At that time, the vote rested in the hands of one voter, Harry Burns. Evidently, Mr. Burns voted in favor of the amendment thanks to a note from his mother reminding him, "Don't forget to be a good boy and vote for suffrage".

Bella Abzug was known for her passionate work in the peace movement, for civil liberties and for feminism. She was truly a leader in increasing public awareness that women are not to be treated unfairly in any way, shape or form.

The full text of the resolution is as follows:

'Joint Resolution of Congress, 1971 Designating August 26th of each year as
Women's Equality Day

WHEREAS, the women of the United States have been treated as second-class citizens and have not been entitled the full rights and privileges, public or private, legal or institutional, which are available to male citizens of the United States; and

WHEREAS, the women of the United States have united to assure that these rights and privileges are available to all citizens equally regardless of sex;

WHEREAS, the women of the United States have designated August 26th, the anniversary date of the passage of the Nineteenth Amendment, as symbol of the continued fight for equal rights: and

WHEREAS, the women of United States are to be commended and supported in their organizations and activities,

NOW, THEREFORE, BE IT RESOLVED, the Senate and House of Representatives of the United States of America in Congress assembled, that August 26th of each year is designated as "Women's Equality Day," and the President is authorized and requested to issue a proclamation annually in commemoration of that day in 1920, on which the women of America were first given the right to vote, and that day in 1970, on which a nationwide demonstration for women's rights took place."

Every day, across the globe, millions of women are still treated as second class citizens, or worse. Here in the U.S. it is witnessed in our Government, in the work place and in the playing field; literally every aspect of life. We have come so far, yet still have such a long way to go.

I urge you to celebrate Women's Equality Day every day (and so does your mother!)

Time to get rid of that "Inner Mean Girl" and start talking nice to you!

2010-08-25T10:43:00.000-07:00

You are worth it!

This afternoon is a big day for me! I am joining women all across the country to get rid of that "Inner Mean Girl". I know it's hard for some of you to believe that "The Bliss Lady" actually has that "not so special" someone nagging at her insides now and then. Well, I do and it's high time she hit the road!

Last year I was very fortunate to run across Christine Arylo and her 40 Self Love Challenge. You may remember that we hosted a "Self Luvapalooza" right here in Birmingham, Michigan. I've been following Christine ever sense and love her wit, her charm and her ability to share simple secrets on connecting with who you really are - like how to fall in love with yourself on a daily basis.

My own "Inner Mean Girl" is constantly vying for center stage. For instance, yesterday I decided to take a walk and meditate. She let me know that I "should be working on my site, my blog and my clients list" instead of out playing. Playing, wrong - me time, YES!!! Fortunately for me, she didn't win - I DID NOT take her on a walk with me.

Today is the beginning of a 40 Day Cleanse on getting rid of that nasty little girl who sometimes roars loudly to say, "You are not doing it right" or "That's not good enough". We all have heard that voice before. I am joining Christine Arylo and Amy Ahlers in a revolution ... stepping into the light of love and teaching that little girl how to be free from lack, insecurity and self hate. I hope that you will all take this opportunity to join me in letting go and living your life in BLISS!!

It's not too late - click here now and see for yourself! Oh, and did I mention it's FREE!!!! What have you got to lose? Oh, yea, a lot!

The Back Pack Thing

2010-08-11T12:03:00.000-07:00

Last year my friend Judy Davids and I were "crying over breakfast" about the state of affairs our community was in - mainly job losses (including ours) and foreclosures - bottom line, homelessness. People were losing their jobs and homes and ending up in the streets; some were people we knew, many were strangers. We wanted to help in some way, even though we had both just been effected by "downsizing".

That same night Judy met a man - Roy Watson from the South Oakland Citizens for the Homeless, also known as SOCH Welcome Inn. We knew our mission was to help him and his organization in aiding the homeless in our community, even if only in a small way.

We reached out to our friends at Moosejaw for backpacks and they offered to help in A BIG WAY! The team at Moosejaw decided they would do something really nice and offer 20% off the purchase of a new backpack when an old backpack was donated.

Why Backpacks? Because homeless people need something to carry their personal belongings in. Hundreds of backpacks were donated. THANK YOU ALL!!!

Fast forward to 2010. Once again Moosejaw is doing something nice - and so are a lot of other people, The Bliss Network, Judy Davids, Postegram and me. "Everyday people" are donating backpacks and money to help SOCH Welcome Inn make a difference in our community and you can too!

From August 16 through Augusts 22, bring in a gently used backpack to any of the 5 Southeast Michigan locations of Moosejaw, from Ann Arbor to Rochester, and you will receive 20% off the purchase price of a new backpack - just in time for school! If you're anything like me, you probably have several floating around your house - now you can put them to good use! You'll lighten the load of a fellow traveler. Remember, it could easily be someone you know - a family member, a friend, or a local teenager.

If you can't get to Moosejaw, you can connect with SOCHWelcomeInn.org in Berkley or email me at teri@theblissnetwork.com and I'll send additional drop off locations!

Passion Exists In YOU - Not The J.O.B.

2010-08-03T04:05:00.000-07:00

While in college I wrote a paper titled, "The World is My Network". (Not going to mention how long ago that was!) The paper detailed the pros and cons of Corporate America vs. Direct Sales and working from home. At that time, web pages were basically word documents and cell phones were about 15 times bigger than they are now.The point of the article was to describe my experiences with both types of positions, including the benefits to both.

Here's the short version:

At the time, I was a single mom working in Corporate America, as well as attending college and running a direct sales business. What I found was I could market and build my own business where ever I was: hockey, cheer-leading, the pool, PTA meetings and traveling around the country. Not only that, as the internet grew, I could maintain an income by reaching out across the globe - consistently making a difference in people's lives with the products I carried.

In my Corporate position, which was so like a pyramid scheme-you know, only the people at the top, like the CEO's, CFO's, etc...were the ones making any money, I was rather stuck. Since there were so few of those positions available, it was going to be very difficult for me to get ahead, especially since I had two kids at home that needed a whole lot of attention. It didn't matter how many clients I spoke with in one day, I was still going to be in the same boat, financially, a year later.

Fast forward to 2010-Seems like today there are more direct selling opportunities popping up every day and obviously, the internet is exploding. Jobs in Corporate America are dwindling and unemployment is at record highs. I personally love direct sales. With the ability to market globally through the net, and the right products, entrepreneurs can create great success. When I look for any product, I look for safety, quality, ecology, return policy and pricing. The products need to be life enhancing and user friendly - whether I'm purchasing them for my family or for my network. Two that I love are Swiss Just-USA and Send Out Cards. (Click the links to find out more about each). Both products enhance my life, my families lives and the lives of those I share them with.

If you are an entrepreneur and/or one of the many who have been affected by layoffs, downsizing and cutbacks there is no better time than now to start your own business. Whether it's through direct sales or something you've created, the time is right. (I live in both worlds, having my own business and earning additional income through Direct Sales.) There are many companies that offer exceptional quality products at fair pricing. Check a few out and find what SPARKS your interest. We all share stuff we love-movies, restaurants, shopping and more-why not get paid for it.

Remember passion exists in YOU - not the J.O.B....
live your passion today.

Bliss ON!

P.S. Visit and bookmark Abec's Small Business Review and read my article! My story will be included in Patrick Abec's book, due to release this fall! Woo Hoo!!!!

30 Days of Smiling

2010-08-01T14:16:00.000-07:00

We found the following challenge posted on Facebook and can't seem to locate where it came from, to give credit to the person that first mentioned it. We think it may be from an article written by Reggie Odum, and intuitive consultant. We are offering it up here, at The Bliss Network! If you know where it originated, please let us know!

Today we challenge you to go out and make one person smile a day, for 30 days. It's that simple. Take notes and at the end of those 30 days see how you feel. See how others feel around you. Please share your tips on how you made someone smile, even if it's a simple as smiling at someone else!

It's so simple and can be so enormous! Here are a few ways to make a smile happen:

Give flowers to a stranger
Send flowers to someone you love
Help someone
Let someone in front of you at the store, coffee shop, etc
Cook a meal and donate
Cook a meal for a neighbor
Bake cookies and donate them
Bake cookies for a neighbor
Fill up your kids gas tank
Fix lunch unexpectedly for your husband, wife, mother, friend
Take a friends dog for a walk so they don't have to
Pick up your mom/dad and take her/him someplace they haven't been
Tell someone how much you really care about them

Need more? E-mail me at teri@theblissnetwork.com. I've got a list of ideas; at lease a few will make someone smile.

Bliss ON! Teri Williams, Bliss Ambassador

P.S. Here's a great article on "more smiling" by Reggie Odom. She talks shares info on one of my favorite inspirational leaders, Thich Nhat Hanh.

http://www.goarticles.com/cgi-bin/showa.cgi?C=3087946

Thoughts On Networking

2010-07-20T05:47:00.000-07:00

The other day I attended a networking event and had the opportunity to meet some wonderful people. The event included a speaker, who was fabulous - very informative and enthusiastic. I paid to attend the event and walked away with more than I thought I would, which is what we want, right?

During the event I noticed how many people that attended were distracted and not giving the speaker the respect he deserved. They chatted with friends and colleagues, checked their email on their phone and texted during the entire event. I wondered what they "took with them" and if they got what they paid for.

As someone who hosts and leads a networking group, here are a few tips I thought necessary to share - more like networking etiquette - in order to give the speaker, host or leader the respect they deserve for chairing the event, as well as those in the room who came to network and learn. Knowing I have done a few of these myself, my commitment is to make each event count for as many people as I can by practicing these five tips.

1. Turn your phone off! If you can't turn it off, at least turn it on silent. I do understand that there are some positions that need 24-hour-a-day availability, like on call physicians, police officers, and fire fighters, to name a few.
2. No texting or emailing! The speaker has committed to sharing his/her knowledge and expertise and deserves your attention. Remember, one day that may be you on the stage.
3. Save the chatter and chit chat for breaks and during specific network times! There are numerous ways to connect with friends and colleagues any other time. Make yourself a note for follow up meetings, emails or phone calls.
4. 30 second introductions mean 30 seconds! Everyone in the room deserves the same respect as the speaker. Don't make it your platform - the leader of the group or event has invited you to "network" not run an infomercial. As a leader, I know I really don't like to play mom and have to set the timer and cut people off mid sentence. If you need help with your intro, I'd be happy to assist.
5. Remember - there are hundreds and thousands of different opportunities out there. Yours is the best FOR YOU! Drop the superiority complex, keeping in mind that what works for you may not work for everyone. We are all here to assist, not insist!

Some of this may sound harsh or less than blissful. It's meant to. These are practices that make it a little more joyful for everyone. All five tips are based upon my own observations as a group leader, speaker and someone who attends networking events, as well as someone like you who has small businesses and practices many different healing modalities. My businesses and practices work for me, they may not work for everyone.

Just like on the road, I'm turning my phone off and paying attention to what lies ahead. I hope you'll join me - life is too short to miss anything!

Create Real Freedom

2010-07-20T05:43:00.000-07:00

Guest article by Steve Martile @ Freedom Education

Freedom is the freedom to choose your thoughts, choose your friends and choose your career; it’s choosing the type of cake you want on your birthday or choosing the car you want to drive. It’s choosing the lifestyle you want to live.

If you’re not actively making these choices, then you’re not free. The happiest people I know are choosing freely. They go after what they want and they are happy because they are doing what they love. That’s real freedom.

If you don’t choose then someone else might choose for you. That seems to be the default way that many people operate. There is no “have to” or “should do” here. It’s all I-WANT-TO.

THE PROBLEM

But most people operate from a different place. They say,

“I have to be successful”
“I have to be a professional speaker”
“I have to date this girl”
“I have to get this job”
“I have to have that car.”
“I have to go to work”
“I have to get this so I can do that.”

That’s not real freedom. Anytime you operate from a “have-to” or a “should-do” you create resistance. And this resistance leads to struggle, frustration and in some cases anger and resentment. It takes longer to achieve your goals and you wonder why you’re so upset with the world.

Stop doing what you “have-to” do and start doing what you really WANT to do. That's where real freedom lives. It doesn’t matter who you are, you’ve always got this choice.

OVERCOME OBSTACLES

Once you choose what you want, take the right steps to go out and get it. That's easier said than done because we've got so much mental garbage that holds us back.

Let’s say you’re looking at a new career. You would really like to start writing and being more creative because you want to use more of your natural talents and abilities.

On the outside it seems like a good idea, but on the inside you have these doubts and fears. You think to yourself,

“What if I’m not good enough?”
“What if I’m not smart enough.”
“What if I’m not qualified?”
“What if they don’t like me?”
“What if I’m too old?”
“What if I’m too young?”

What if, what if, what if? All these doubts running through your mind. So on the outside you really want to take steps to make this new career happen, but on the inside you feel like you’re going through hell trying to get there.

You feel stuck.

On one side of the coin you have this desire to grow and express more of who you really are and on the other side your mental garbage is holding you back.

So how do you get around it?

Start to fill your mind with positive new thoughts and beliefs.

As my gift to you I want to show you exactly how you might do that:

http://www.freedomeducation.ca/resultsfastandeasy/

Download this free video training and you will:

- Eliminate the struggle, “trying harder” and the bad habits that have kept you back
- Discover the #1 method of instantly gaining confidence and building momentum to any goal you set
- Find new ways of getting results that are easier, faster and more fun

Click here to get your training:

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Live life a joy,

Steve

What is your dream job? Are you doing it?

2010-06-29T10:33:00.000-07:00

Many people have asked me, "What is my dream job?". I do my dream job every day. Usually, I like to ask them, "aren't you living your dream job?" and if they're not, I tell them there's no better time than now to make it happen. Isn't it time you gave your life a J.O.L.T?

I love my jobs, all of them. Besides wife, mom, daughter, sister, and friend, I have several:

* I built a few websites and took a Dreamweaver class - I help people build their websites and then teach them how to do the updates on their own! No more waiting for your web developer to do it for you. (Just ask Brenda Strausz at Brenda Strausz.com - she loves that she can work on her own site) So EMPOWERING!

* I wrote a couple books - I assist people in getting their message out by helping them publish an ebook or a printed book- or BOTH! Just ask Tamara Stone, The Balance Chic - Tamara and I co -created a new book called Girlavanting...coming to a store near you! (The book and the girls!)

* I promote myself and I can promote you, too. Better yet, I can teach you how to promote yourself through tools like Facebook and Linked IN.

* I co-created a business networking group, Cooperative Networks to help YOU get your message out. A no cost, high energy event that is focused on YOU! We leave our egos at the door and know that we are to make a difference for at least one person in the room!

* I love natural skin care, meditation and alternative healing - now I empower others through energy healing, essential oils and aromatherapy - everyone NEEDS to relax a little more!

* I created a huge network through "Social Networking" and now I've co-created Joy Of Living Training - 21 days to J.O.L.T. your business. A really cool interactive online workshop that gives you the tools you need to spark your business. This workshop is based upon our successes - and will give you the J.O.L.T. you need, in only 21 minutes a day! (You can register now by clicking HERE.)

Every day I empower at least one person by sparking their creativity and igniting their passion. What do I do? When someone asks me that question, I like to ask, "What do you need? " Or "What does your business need to grow?" Practice putting your ego aside for a minute and listen to what the person really needs. When I do that, I can then decide how best to serve you and your business needs.

20 years ago, as a single mom, I bought my first computer and never looked back. Behind me were 10 years of Corporate Management, endless hours of accounting and marketing courses, as well as a crash course on the new "internet". I started a business out of my home, called the Administrative Assistant. My first client was a D.J. from WDET. I transcribed his shows for him and learned a whole lot about Jazz at the same time! Since then, my entrepreneurial spirit has lead me down many paths. As a perpetual student, I love to learn. The more I learn, the more I am able to empower my clients to live the life of their dreams.

What about you? What do you do? Are you living the life of your dreams? Have you made a list lately of what you really want to do; a list of what you LOVE? Grab a pen, a piece of paper and start writing down what makes you feel passionate! Oh, and if you're not loving the drive to the office, call me! I'd be happy to share a little bliss! Teri

Another Blisstory Question

2010-06-15T11:01:00.000-07:00

Blisstory Question:

Where have you always wanted to live?

Ever since I was a little girl I've wanted to live in Pleasant Ridge. I've lived in a lot of places; none have drawn me back like this vibrant little community. While driving down the tree lined streets, it was like driving under a canopy of green "heaven"; birds were singing and people waved as we drove by, with smiles on their faces, every time!

Each summer, my friends from "PR" spent the day at the pool and swim team practice - families would gather to cheer their kids on and barbecue at the pool park. The community continuously had something going on that each family could participate in. Most homes were beautifully decorated with amazing landscapes full of flowers and lush greenery. Even in the winter, during the holiday season, the streets were lined with luminaries to light the way.

At the end of this month, my dream is coming true. My family will be moving to Pleasant Ridge. I'll be posting a sign on my door that says, "Welcome to Blissville". We are all so excited! Pleasant Ridge is still such an incredible community. When we were "house hunting", we noticed the streets are still canopied with beautiful trees, people wave with smiles on their faces and the community spirit is living larger than ever! Talk about landscapes! The Home and Garden Tour just passed and the yards on the route are breathtaking!

Is there someplace you have always wanted to live? Are you there now? If not, what's holding you back? Start looking around, checking out options, and talking to people. Take it from me, it's never to late to live your dream and follow your bliss!

Bliss ON!

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